Men who understand their role in society are in short supply. And that finite number is dwindling rapidly. Men have lost our way. We've become complacent and supplicant to women in the hope that that supplication will gain feminine attention and favor.
The reality is that it has the exact opposite behaviour. Women have learned, through popular media and fundamentalist feminism, that it's their right to flex their muscles and become masculine. Why? Because men don't know what our roles are anymore.
In my opinion, the primary injustice to modern man is societal conditioning. According to DivorceRate.org, As recent as April 2nd 2009 the divorce rate for young men age 20 - 24 years old is 38.8%. Men 25 - 29 years old is 22.3%. These are staggering numbers.
Let me share one other statistic;
The divorce rate in America for first marriage is 41%
The divorce rate in America for second marriage is 60%
The divorce rate in America for third marriage is 73%
What does this say about us as men? It says we've lost our direction. Divorced Father's leave a legacy of confusion and distrust if the son is not properly schooled in relationship dynamics.
Our Fathers are our enemy.
Think about this for a moment and let it sink in. Your Father built the foundation of his personality from your Grandfather, just as his Father, and on and on. You followed in those steps too. It doesn't make your Father a bad guy nor does it make the effort he invested into your development fruitless. Without our Father we're left to our own devices to find answers to the questions which hinder our progress.
In today's culture it's counterintuitive to assume we have anyone else to show us the way from boy-mentality to, what I've coined, MANtality. We have no rites of passage. No method of elevating ourselves to a higher plane of self worth and personal responsiblity.
What we have in abundance is blame. It's easier to blame others than to search for a way to learn from our dispositions. We point our fingers at everyone and everything to make it acceptable to be compliant. To make ourselves momentarily superior for a brief moment in order to give our responsibility away.
Men today want results and we want them now. Fortunately, with a little know-how and some perseverance, there is a way to rise above the mediocrity that plagues today's modern wimp.
Through all of the knowledge I've read, studied, and applied, I've learned that there are two core components to achieving one's core fulfilling purpose.
The first component is your Boundary. Think of your Boundary as a force field surrounding your body. It's the space which protects you from negativity and stress, from interference and misdirection. Once you understand how powerful your Boundary is, how protective and comfortable you become within it, you'll have the courage to accept responsibility for your actions and decisions.
The second component is Confidence. 100% Courage = 100% Confidence. I've come to understand that the amount of courage you gain, even the smallest amount, that courage will generate 100% Confidence. Every single time.
Let's explore Confidence a bit closer. Confidence is progressively mastering your emotional states to a point which you have complete control over your irrational Self.
The following chapters will provide you a detailed analysis and specific methods for attaining self worth, conquering your inner demons, becoming passionate about yourself and claiming your masculinity through a properly guided rite of passage.
