"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Falcon25 said:
If you have sex with a woman EARLY in any type of relationship, she will walk away like it meant NOTHING to her. If you want to keep a girl, you have to mind fuvk her first.
How early is too early? This is what I've never been that clear about.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Boilermaker said:
squirrels,

Man, now I clearly see this is exactly what's happened, it's amazing how you could go so deep on me by reading my two paragraphs of the entire week.


She came too early after my break-up and I totally got bent out of shape. Well, I can't say I didn't have fun but I feel somewhat dissapointed my game was so amateurish!

Thanks very much you guys, it's been VERY helpful to see you all comment on this.
Like I said, dude...don't sweat it. :) It's good that you can enjoy the emotional experience. You made the mistake we all make sometimes...you fell in love with the feeling you got from this girl, not the girl herself. :p

Take it for what it is and keep rolling. Call her a "rebound chick". :D
 

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Totally insightful post. I've been down this road in the past myself, and this thread gives some clarifications. We were banging every day in a row and suddenly it dropped off -- I was hook line and sinker in and she knew it, and I got douched in the end.

Regarding this girl, I think you totally made the right decision, she would cause you a great deal of drama keeping these games going, you'd be distracted and caught-up. Not worth it.
 

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with girls/women, keep one rule in mind : "LESS IS MORE"

cheers
 

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Falcon25 said:
I need you to read this very carefully. I have hooked up with many 19, 20, 21 yr olds.

One thing is very true and universal with all women. If you have sex with a woman EARLY in any type of relationship, she will walk away like it meant NOTHING to her. If you want to keep a girl, you have to mind fuvk her first.
But.....
If that's your goal.
18 yr old to 23 yr olds are CRAZY. They like you one day, like someone else the next.

Here is your mistake;

First, expecting anything more than a few weeks with a 19 yr old which you BUILT ZERO EMOTIONAL CONNECTION WITH.

Second, you saw her WAAAAAAAY too much. You can't see and have sex with a girl seven straight days and expect her not to get bored of you. See what happened? Instead of banging her for weeks, maybe months, you traded seven straight days for a fuvk buddy that could have lasted for months. You have to be unavailable, you have to treat her like crap, she is young, she wants what she can't have. You are old news. Just one more notch on her belt. You have to pretend, if not act, like you have TWENTY of her. You have to understand that she is young, and probably cannot be compatible with you in a relationship setting. You can't date this little girl. She is not a woman. All you can do is fuvk her till her eyes roll back, the way you do that is by establishing that she means nothing to you. TIME IS THE WAY TO A WOMAN'S HEART. NOT SEX. So next time, pull back a little, bang her but not for fuvking seven straight days. What's the matter with you? Don't you have a job? Studies? Or a family?

If a chick wanted to bang me for the third straight night, and she wasn't my wife, I would tell her that my covk hurts and that I need a couple days to rest from that mean ass puvsy of hers. I would also tell her that I have a family and I don't have time to fuvk her every night. I WOULD TELL HER SHE IS NOT MY GIRLFRIEND SO SHE DOESN"T DESERVE MY COVK EVERY NIGHT. Some guys will cringe at this, they will say "Dude, if she wants to fuvk, fuvk her, why you being a pusvy?" What they don't understand is that REJECTION keeps her wanting more NOT AVAILABILTY.

LEARN FROM THIS.

bump for the sake of this post. well said.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Bible_Belt said:
bump for the sake of this post. well said.

Very good post indeed...!

I am working on the "MIND" of another "young one" right now. I have improved my game; and will repeat the same mistakes!!
 
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