I never though it would work...

[kixs]

Hi!

Me and my friend where swimming at the public pool and we spot two lovely ladies ( 7 and 9 ). Later we go straight to them and start conversation. My friend is a real talker, can't stop for a minute and constantly complimenting the blond one ( 9 ). I was really confussed, she was a real knock out and I belive had many guys after her and had to get many compliments anyways, but no, she got embarresed and all. It was quite funny

Usually when my friend does this what he did with this girl, he gets really burned and shoot down right away.

In the beginning they where on guard, but later the blond one starts to dig him, he talks and brags about himself and talks about the thing he likes and doesn't like... and giving compliments from time to time... ( about her looks ).

For me this was a real let down. Couse in the beginning she was into me... but I don't know what happened... when I saw she started digging him, I just let go... and stopped even trying. Then I just watched my friend do his act to the end. He tried to get her number but not directly... and she didn't give it... but she left enough clues that he knows who she is and got the number from a friend.

The funny thing is, that he did all the things that a guy "shouldn't" do... and got away with it!

I don't know how he will play on, but so far so good.

 

[Starman]

"The funny thing is, that he did all the things that a guy "shouldn't" do... and got away with it!"

No, He did all the things a guy SHOULD do..he was taking initiative, was confident, was the alpha male between you two, and somehow sparked an attraction with the blond.

Giving compliments when you are ****y/funny/confident CFC(vs AFC) is OK in the Equation.

You just need to tone it down when the chick has her B1tch sheild up..and obviously these chicks were not acting like byatches were they?

 

[xblitz44x]

Did it ever occur to you that she might have been attracted to him to begin with? And ANYTHING that he had done would have been fine? She was attracted to him probably before he even started talking. He just didn't fvck it up in conversation and crafted an opportunity for her to converse, or take it further. That's all it's about guys.

-Blitz

 

[Starman]

Is it a coincidence that the conversationalist in the group is always more attractive?

Ive been in situations like this many times..when I was in Highschool..I was the shy , quiet type..and my friends would always go up to chicks and talk..while I just stood there with my hands in my pockets..

MOST of the time..the chicks would be attracted to the guy I was tagging along with because he took initiative and did all the talking

ONCE in a blue moon..the chick would say to me "well you are kinda quiet"..and starts assking me 20 questions

YES, part of it is chemical attraction..the other half is up to you to create the attraction..

Standing there saying nothing is the equivalent to saying "Im a shy little girly man, and Im scared to interact"

Luckily Ive grown up.

 

[jive]

Originally posted by kixs

constantly complimenting

compliments from time to time... ( about her looks ).

...in the beginning she was into me... but I don't know what happened...

He tried to get her number but not directly... and she didn't give it...

he did all the things that a guy "shouldn't" do... and got away with it!

sounds like an ATTENTION W-HORE

 

[xblitz44x]

"YES, part of it is chemical attraction..the other half is up to you to create the attraction.." -Starman

That's where you're wrong though. There is no CREATING the attraction. I totally agree that you can't stand there with your hands in your pockets and expect something to happen. If neither person does anything, nothing will come out of it. However the attraction is ALREADY THERE. But it's not going to FORCE a chick to talk to him. She feels it, or she doesn't. Now he has to take his hands out of his pocket and make something OUT of the attraction. Being a great conversationalist is a way to make a girl who is attracted to you, comfortable. It also allows you to have the confidence to be able to take initiative; because you know that IF she likes you, you will be able to make something out of that.

"Is it a coincidence that the conversationalist in the group is always more attractive?"

Nah, he's not more attractive per se. It's just that he takes advantage of the girls who ARE attracted to him, whereas the quiet guy lets one opportunity after another pass him by.

-Blitz