I never know what to say

[2c2bt]

I went out tonight, and I met this hot girl that kept going on about how cute I am. Then she kept talking about sex how she liked in the ass, and all kinds of good stuff. She was hot, and all she talked about was sex. She asked me if I thought she was nuts. She was clearly trying to get me to like her. I talked back to her as well, but there were lots and lots of awkward pauses on my behalf. Not to mention some of the things I said were really cheesy. I did alot of keeno, but not once did I make her laugh. Nothing I said seemed really funny. It didn't go that great, and she went from totally interested to not interested at all.

This has been happening to me all my life. Girl is totally interested in me. She starts talking to me, and she becomes the opposite of interested.

 

[2c2bt]

Everytime I talk to girls, I have a hard time thinking of things to make her laugh or focus on something exciting or interesting to talk to her about. I need help holding a riveting conversation with a woman. reating that connection. At the same time disconnecting with percision.

 

[danielzxc]

Well, to give you some specific advice. If SHE is talking about sex, then you have to talk about it, too. If she is talking about sex and you are trying to crack jokes and maker her laugh, you are actually going BACKWARDS.

See, you do all the "make her laugh" stuff to get her COMFORTABLE with you. Comfortable enough so that you can "escalate the conversation" and GET her talking about sex. This is the stuff that turns her on and gets you laid.

If she is ALREADY talking sex, you don't NEED to make her laugh.

If you are uncomfortable talking about sex, usually it's because you're inexperienced. If that's the case, start learning some examples of what you can talk about (watch pron, read "lay reports" (even if they're fake, it's okay), read those fake stories magazines publish from readers etc). Then just "fake it".

(If you actually do get laid with a chick you are "faking" the sex talk with, you probably won't be very good, and certainly not as good as you were making out to be, but DON'T WORRY about it -- main thing is you get laid.)


Now, in GENERAL, if you are having a tough time talking to girls, or making them laugh, well, that's a more complicated topic. Maybe you should post some actual conversations you have had, just to give an idea of what you're doing.


Ps -- too bad you fumbled the ball with chick who was talking sex to you so much. Those are golden opportunities man.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

A couple of questions to throw at her?

"Alright, cool. But let me ask you something. Why are you talking so much about sex, are you frustrated or something?"

It shows that you are so calm and are calling her out for being perverted; believe if it was a guy, she'd be accusing him of not getting any and being perverted. Just make sure you say it with a smile.

"You're not all talk and no action, are you?" Let her explain herself and jump through your hoops.

Pull her towards you and kiss her.

 

[The Forms]

Well, to give you some specific advice. If SHE is talking about sex, then you have to talk about it, too. If she is talking about sex and you are trying to crack jokes and maker her laugh, you are actually going BACKWARDS.

See, you do all the "make her laugh" stuff to get her COMFORTABLE with you. Comfortable enough so that you can "escalate the conversation" and GET her talking about sex. This is the stuff that turns her on and gets you laid.

If she is ALREADY talking sex, you don't NEED to make her laugh.

If you are uncomfortable talking about sex, usually it's because you're inexperienced. If that's the case, start learning some examples of what you can talk about (watch pron, read "lay reports" (even if they're fake, it's okay), read those fake stories magazines publish from readers etc). Then just "fake it".

(If you actually do get laid with a chick you are "faking" the sex talk with, you probably won't be very good, and certainly not as good as you were making out to be, but DON'T WORRY about it -- main thing is you get laid.)


Now, in GENERAL, if you are having a tough time talking to girls, or making them laugh, well, that's a more complicated topic. Maybe you should post some actual conversations you have had, just to give an idea of what you're doing.


Ps -- too bad you fumbled the ball with chick who was talking sex to you so much. Those are golden opportunities man.

I'd go the complete opposite way with this one than danielzxc is telling you. When a real hot girl talks about sex a LOT when i don't know her too well, I don't take the bait. That's what she wants you to do. Get all horny just like all the other guys. She wants to get you all worked up, and maybe even make you blush a little. First off, keep your cool.

This is when I completely cut her down. I almost never use negs, but this girl is asking for it. I tell her something along the lines of "oh, I just don't like to talk about sex too much with someone I don't know too well yet. It's just not very classy." Now, I don't say it like some flustered schoolboy. You have to say it with confidence, almost as an offhanded remark; like you aren't even thinking about what you're saying. That part is really important.

This is when her head spins around. Trust me, a girl like this, she isn't used to a guy shutting her down in her sex talking. She does it because she knows it'll get you horny and a little flushed. That gives her power. This is her weapon, and you just rendered it useless.

But wait, it gets better. She's embarrassed now. From here on she feels the need to qualify for you. Cause you just pretty much called her a classless slut. Even though class never crossed her mind, now that you mentioned it, she wants to let you know that she's not some *****, she's a classy lady. Now that you took her power away, you've got the power, and she's gonna feel the need to impress you.

So, what she usually uses to get guys worked up gets turned around on her and now she's embarassed and looking for your approval (because you just jerked your approval in a way that hits a woman hard).

Anyhow, that's how I play that situation when it comes up. I'm sure the next post after this is going to be some keyboard jockey flaming what I just said because HE'S never done it that way, but it works.