i am gonna call this girl on the phone later. i wanna meet her. and she wants to meet me. and to be honest I havent even thought of what to do with this girl. or met her yet. i saw her one day wit my boy that knows her and he hooked it up. so i got her number and where do we go for this type of meeting??
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
i never did this before
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Supero Masculus
Don Juan
Just take this girl somewhere that is FUN. Somewhere that she cannot help but have a good time at. Find out what she likes and invite her to go do it. If she likes to swim go to a beach or pool, if she likes to bowl go bowling ect. This is an easy question with an easy answer. If she has a good time she will most likely wanna do a repeat of it later. Thats my 2 cents!
Capt.Jack Sparrow
Master Don Juan
Man, just treat her as if it were any other date. Just get out there, have fun, be yourself, apply whatever knowledge you may have learned from this site, and remember to bring johnny's helmet if you do get that far. Good luck bro.
Whatever you do, do not make a drawn out phone conversation with her. Leave some mystery about you there before the date, I mean, she already wants to meet you, no need to give her your bio.
Call her up, tell her "Hey, I'm free Saturday, let's go to the movies at 7" blah blah, hook up the date as fast as you can, hang up, go on a date. You can take her to the park, chicks just dig parks, or just get a bite to eat. If you don't know her very well, make it a short coffee date or whatever. Just get to know her better and keep it upbeat so that the date is memorable. Don't make such a big fuss about it. You seem too into this girl and you're worrying too much. Lighten up.
Call her up, tell her "Hey, I'm free Saturday, let's go to the movies at 7" blah blah, hook up the date as fast as you can, hang up, go on a date. You can take her to the park, chicks just dig parks, or just get a bite to eat. If you don't know her very well, make it a short coffee date or whatever. Just get to know her better and keep it upbeat so that the date is memorable. Don't make such a big fuss about it. You seem too into this girl and you're worrying too much. Lighten up.
It's very important that you don't talk to her on the phone all that much before the initial date. I've found it's good to not tell her where you are going and just say it's a suprise. Dinner, parks, and movies are great. Just somewhere you two can get to talk. Just go out there and have fun.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
MidwestFreek
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im going to mix some of these posts and add a twist. Find out what she likes. Good. Now remember this. Plan something that incorporates her tastes (dont tell her your plan). Now, call her up, plan something boring, something usual (movie, mall, etc.). Okay, you've got her thinking "Great, another trip to the movies. What a lamo." How wrong she will be. If you can drive, pick her up. If you can't get a friend or somebody to pick you up. Next, don't give her any clue that you're not going where you said you were, just go to your alternate plan. If she likes to dance, plan on the movies, take her to the club. TADA! If she likes swimming and you don't live by an ocean, plan a late movie, take her to a lake or pool at night, and go swimming. Or you could just walk along the shore and joke around. You get the picture. Plan boring. Surprise her with FUN. She'll love it. Not only will she love it, but she will want to hang out with you again and she'llwant it to be SOON.
splinterkb
Master Don Juan
Take her to the ZOO!!!!! Most girls love seeing animals that they almost never see. If she's like that, she'll have a great time with you, and you'll score major points.