"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I need ur help.

Baruch

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So I've been boning this chick for the past month and a half now. I play my game right. Make this chick want me more by being the prize. I always succeed at doing that at the beggining. This chick would message me alot, call me and want to hang out...

Well, I was just talkin to her earlier. she called me to talk while shee was on the way to meet with her friends friends and ****. I dont know why, but that pisses me off. I start to think she might be hanging out with another dude or whatever.

If I dont get the attention I want, I get pissed off. I start to want her more. And thats exactly what I have been doin with her the whole time(or every other girl I trired to bone or have)...to make her want me. But after hangin out for a while with a chick that i am ****in, i start to get attachhed...why?!

So I texted while she is out...she didnt answer. I text her again and again...she dont answer..i called her and she didnt answer...

I was laying in bed and tellin myself not to text her, but I have no self control!

Just when I think I learned alot from this site and boned a few chicks, I am right back at being an AFC...

Now I do feel like a chump for textin her so many times and callin her on top of it becuase she didnt reply...how do I avoid of doin this? I need help!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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young_gun

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I bet you'll never do that again! It's natural to feel attached to someone after you've been bonin them for a while now. (Hell I feel attached to this girl I'm seeing right now, and we've only done it twice) But you HAVE to give her independence and space. If you don't, she's gone. Trust me on that.

What do you want? Do you want this girl to be your girlfriend? Or do you even know what you want?
 

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Young gun is correct.

But to add, she's playin a game with you. From what it seems, she knew that when the relationship started off, that you were in control, and took the lead. What she's doing now however to test if you're for real or just a poser, is she's doing things that are turning the table to gain control of the relationship- and from what it seems, its working excellent on her favor.

Its easy to get attached to someone, but you have to have the mindset that its a game, and you gotta play it smmoth to win. trust me on this one, if you dont give her space as young gun said, and she see's that you're leaking out traits of deperation- say good bye to the r00ting, cause it'll be game over for you...
 

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i'd say you've put this woman on a pedestal. it sounds like she's so important to the point that your happiness depends on her.

that's a dangerous position to be in. if how you feel relies on another person you're going to get burned sooner or later.

i think everyone needs to know how to be happy single. they need to be satisfied with themselves. they need to have confidence that they are good, quality people.

but you're miserable on the suspicion of her cheating. just the idea of it. this is going to chase her away, and quickly.

so either give her some space, or be prepared for her to claim it on her own when she walks out of your life.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Baruch

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young_gun said:
I bet you'll never do that again! It's natural to feel attached to someone after you've been bonin them for a while now. (Hell I feel attached to this girl I'm seeing right now, and we've only done it twice) But you HAVE to give her independence and space. If you don't, she's gone. Trust me on that.

What do you want? Do you want this girl to be your girlfriend? Or do you even know what you want?
I kept telling her that I am not looking for a GF and the word relationship makes me cringe. Honestly, I've taken a liking to this girl, but we do not have a title. I had bad experiences with relationships and I try to keep it brief with the girls I sleep with.

But I do like this one. I am just affraid of admitting to her that I do like her. I do know she is enamoured with me but she isn't sure how I feel about her. Me admitting I like her more than just some chick that I am having fun with, makes me feel vulnerable. Its like I am giving away something. She even told me that she knows I like her, but she thinks I take her for granted. Lately, I stopped getting random text messages from me, so my gut feeling told me something is wrong before she admitted it to me.

I do not want to be in a relationship, yet I do not want to part with this chick. I dont know how to explain it, I guess bad past experiences. Better to quit now than later, right?

But I would think that after 2 months of seeing her (its more than I thought at first) I got used to having her by my side. I am just affraid that if I take it to the next level, I'll show that vulnerability, show that I care, and become a total sappy bastard in a relationship that has jealousy problems...thats just something that is doomed to be ruined.

I am not good with relationships. I am to jealous, and I will crave attention like a little kid. I don't know why I get this way when I spent alot of time with the same person...Therefore I need your help how to get rid of this.

PS: Last night I made the mistake of takin a xanax and ended up talking to her late night, admitting that I do like her, but I want to break this off becuase I do not like to get emotionally attached to someone. I also told her that I do not like this feeling and it causes vulnerabilty in people.

We talked today again and she had to remind me what I said cause I had little recolection of it. But apperntly she said I was a total sap and she was mad why I couldn't tell her that sober. We still do not have a defenition, honestly, I like to keep it that way. But at the same time, I would go mad bannanas if she saw some other guy and got intimate with him. We talked today, she said she really likes me, misses me, wants to see me all that stuff...however, I still do not get the random texts like I used to and I think I am killed some of the IOI she had before.

How can I regain the IOI? Regain my manhood and find my balls?
 

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How do you regain your manhood? Simple, start becoming the prize again. Do the things you used to do to make her realize that she has NOT won the battle and that you are still the prize.
 
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