I need true, down to earth advice.

[Nygard]

I had a break yesterday. Because of my condition, those breakdowns include, amongst other problems, self-hate and suicidal thoughts. Now, I didn't have one that bad in a long time and I believe this is a clear sign that I need to start the process all over. Also, it's obvious that whatever I've been doing for the past 2 years isn't working because I haven't changed at all and I don't feel happier.
After I was happily done with school, I took a year off and worked on myself, went out to travel and lived in LA. I became a relatively social person after my time there. I'm coming back this winter and I see it as an opportunity to break through and do somethign for myself, to become a better person and feel a lot better about myself, and, hopefully, not have another break ever again.

Where do I start? What is the process? Where do I go from there?

Please, don't tell me to go to the woods and wrestle bears. First, there are no bears in this country. Second, the jungle is full of nasty surprises, most of them related to guerrillas and third, nobody ever does that anymore.

Please Sosuavers, help me on this one only, okay?

 

[DonJuanit0]

Go to the gym! Get you body in a great shape without spending all your day in the gym though! Get to meet new people, women/men younger/older w/e! Just meet new people! Read the DJ bible which can be found in this site and see what an Alpha male everyone is talking about looks like and try to change only what is bad on you and not your whole character cause then you won't be real!

I think that's a nice start!

 

[eaglez1177]

So your sayin you pretty much had a breakdown yesterday that included self hate and suicidal thoughts? If your prone to those kind of things, you need to seek some professional help...suicidal thoughts are not good.

 

[It's-Me]

I had a break yesterday. Because of my condition, those breakdowns include, amongst other problems, self-hate and suicidal thoughts. Now, I didn't have one that bad in a long time and I believe this is a clear sign that I need to start the process all over. Also, it's obvious that whatever I've been doing for the past 2 years isn't working because I haven't changed at all and I don't feel happier.

It's clear.

After I was happily done with school, I took a year off and worked on myself, went out to travel and lived in LA. I became a relatively social person after my time there. I'm coming back this winter and I see it as an opportunity to break through and do somethign for myself, to become a better person and feel a lot better about myself, and, hopefully, not have another break ever again.

Where do I start? What is the process? Where do I go from there?

First off, what are your passions? what do you really enjoy doing? Those are some serious questions you need to ask yourself. I'm really passionate about working out (I look forward to it all the time), sports, electronics, cars and just pretty much anything involving technology. I also enjoy chilling with friends and just fooling around (smoking joints sometimes). It's fun to hang out your friends and get a good laugh. It's also fun to read and learn different things. You really have to find something your interested in and worth while your time.

Second, life is all about balance. Too much of anything is no good and not enough of something isn't good. I don't need to go more in details...

Third, happiness is all relative. You have to learn to enjoy the simple things in life. You see some rich people, but they're not happy and you see the opposite. Sure money will make your happier to a certain extent, but it will never be enough. Helping people will definitely make you happier.

Last but not least, you shouldn't put too much importance on getting women (remember my second point). Don't spend your life on girls, spend your life on yourself and have some girls in your life. Getting girls should be something fun and natural.

That's my take