I need to up my texting game

[JPlaya]

Any tips or good examples of what yall have did. I suck pretty much and the texting turns in to like hour convos. I also don't know to start convos pretty well. I don't cut it with the hey or did you get this texts because that makes me look like I've been thinking about her when my goal is to get her to think about me. Also, why do girls instantly reply to some texts, but out of nowhere take like 30 minutes to respond to a text?

 

[49au]

For one thing, time your responses so that you are taking just as long as she is to respond, if not longer.

And just like in f2f conversation, let her do most of the talking.

 

[JPlaya]

Do yall have any good examples or at least a guide.

 

[Chickfight]

The only texting game you'll need.

"So, when are you coming over?"

 

[Tiguere]

i just downloaded off a torrent site something called


The Attractive Man - The Ultimate Guide To Texting Girls

1 Basic Principles and Texting Mindset
2 Building Attraction and Comfort
3 First Text Openers
4 Teasing Texts
5 Getting Her on the Phone and on a Date
6 Damage Control and Bonuses

 

[Iceberg]

Any tips or good examples of what yall have did. I suck pretty much and the texting turns in to like hour convos. I also don't know to start convos pretty well. I don't cut it with the hey or did you get this texts because that makes me look like I've been thinking about her when my goal is to get her to think about me. Also, why do girls instantly reply to some texts, but out of nowhere take like 30 minutes to respond to a text?

Here's the thing. Texting does NOT build attraction. Text "conversations" are useless. It is a communications tool. You use it to arrange dates. You don't use a hammer to eat ice cream. You don't use text to build attraction or interest. It's purpose to quickly arrange plans without the hassle of chit-chat.

My text "game" amounts to this: "Hey. (Something cool that happened that day.) What are you doing Thurs? Let's get drinks."

A lot of you guys might wait 10 texts before getting to the point. I'd just do it in the first. No need to sit around glued to your phone.

See, the problem I think lots of guys have with text is - they're seeking constant validation. They like that constant attention the girl is giving them. But unless it's happening in person, you might as well be pen pals.

i just downloaded off a torrent site something called


The Attractive Man - The Ultimate Guide To Texting Girls

1 Basic Principles and Texting Mindset
2 Building Attraction and Comfort
3 First Text Openers
4 Teasing Texts
5 Getting Her on the Phone and on a Date
6 Damage Control and Bonuses

That is terrifying.

If you already got the number, then how about you just take the liberty to assume interest? How about you just cut all the "building attraction and comfort thru text" and just ask her out?

I couldn't imagine myself thinking "Great! I got her number. NOW'S the time to build attraction!" You built attraction to get the number....now just arrange the date.

What's the girl gonna say? "Yeah, I really liked the guy, but after I gave him my number, he asked me out for drinks! He didn't even text me to chat!!"

 

[garruk]

Here's the thing. Texting does NOT build attraction. Text "conversations" are useless. It is a communications tool. You use it to arrange dates. You don't use a hammer to eat ice cream. You don't use text to build attraction or interest. It's purpose to quickly arrange plans without the hassle of chit-chat.

My text "game" amounts to this: "Hey. (Something cool that happened that day.) What are you doing Thurs? Let's get drinks."

A lot of you guys might wait 10 texts before getting to the point. I'd just do it in the first. No need to sit around glued to your phone.

See, the problem I think lots of guys have with text is - they're seeking constant validation. They like that constant attention the girl is giving them. But unless it's happening in person, you might as well be pen pals.





That is terrifying.

If you already got the number, then how about you just take the liberty to assume interest? How about you just cut all the "building attraction and comfort thru text" and just ask her out?

I couldn't imagine myself thinking "Great! I got her number. NOW'S the time to build attraction!" You built attraction to get the number....now just arrange the date.

What's the girl gonna say? "Yeah, I really liked the guy, but after I gave him my number, he asked me out for drinks! He didn't even text me to chat!!"

i agree. this is just making a mountain out of a mole hill sort of thing.

so much of the pick-up world is just people trying to make money. and i guess this guy selling the ebook thought he would carve himself a little niche here.

 

[garruk]

Here's the thing. Texting does NOT build attraction. Text "conversations" are useless. It is a communications tool. You use it to arrange dates. You don't use a hammer to eat ice cream. You don't use text to build attraction or interest. It's purpose to quickly arrange plans without the hassle of chit-chat.

My text "game" amounts to this: "Hey. (Something cool that happened that day.) What are you doing Thurs? Let's get drinks."

A lot of you guys might wait 10 texts before getting to the point. I'd just do it in the first. No need to sit around glued to your phone.

See, the problem I think lots of guys have with text is - they're seeking constant validation. They like that constant attention the girl is giving them. But unless it's happening in person, you might as well be pen pals.





That is terrifying.

If you already got the number, then how about you just take the liberty to assume interest? How about you just cut all the "building attraction and comfort thru text" and just ask her out?

I couldn't imagine myself thinking "Great! I got her number. NOW'S the time to build attraction!" You built attraction to get the number....now just arrange the date.

What's the girl gonna say? "Yeah, I really liked the guy, but after I gave him my number, he asked me out for drinks! He didn't even text me to chat!!"

i agree. this is just making a mountain out of a mole hill sort of thing.

so much of the pick-up world is just people trying to make money. and i guess this guy selling the ebook thought he would carve himself a little niche here.

 

[bigneil]

Texting can build attraction if you are telling her erotic stories and leaving her hanging - and making her say "and then what happened?" I told one girl how I "punished" a previous girl. By the time I was done she texted "Wish you could come over" (I was 1000 miles away) and she then called me and we basically had phone sex.

Also, ask her what her favorite positions are. Ask her what she is wearing.

 

[JPlaya]

But I haven't really talked to the girl in 2 weeks. What if this girl is like a goody goody.

 

[Iceberg]

Texting can build attraction if you are telling her erotic stories and leaving her hanging - and making her say "and then what happened?" I told one girl how I "punished" a previous girl. By the time I was done she texted "Wish you could come over" (I was 1000 miles away) and she then called me and we basically had phone sex.

Also, ask her what her favorite positions are. Ask her what she is wearing.

Right.

How about I just meet the girl in person instead of building attraction by pressing tiny buttons on little some glowing object in my hands.

I don't think any girl I've ever dated would imagine me sitting in a chair typing erotic stories into a cell phone. That is so much not my image, I'm almost insulted by the prospect of it.

But I haven't really talked to the girl in 2 weeks

Christ, dude. Stop making excuses.

What do you think this magical "text game" is?

You: Wuts up, mama. Wut r u wearing?

And then she's gonna be all hot and bothered by your sexy texts...

Come on, man. The goal is to see the girl in person. I assume if she gave you her number, then she already knows you on some level. So why are you treating text as if it's AOL Chat...instant messaging someone you never met before. As if you gotta build up the comfort levels of some chick YOU ALREADY KNOW.

Everything you do. Everything you say should be geared towards getting to see this girl in person. Otherwise, you'll just waste weeks having dumb conversations about dumb sh*t, all for her to reject you anyway. Sending smiley faces and sh*t.

 

[bigneil]

In my case it was LDR with an HB8 who I had only spoken to for 15 minutes total. 3 weeks later she was waiting for me in a hotel when I got to her hometown (had already planned trip before I met her). She got naked immediately. Talking about sex is a good thing when you are getting to know a woman.

However, for local girls, I met a girl 3 weeks ago and got her cell phone number. I sent her 4 texts total, all of which she replied to, but nothing too exciting so I waited. Then today she texted me to ask me out for tonight which is where I'm headed now.

 

[JPlaya]

What did you say to get her to ask you out.

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

What did you say to get her to ask you out.

How did you get this girl's number?

Did you find it on a bathroom wall?

If you met the girl and got her number, then what kind of text game should you need? You had the game to get the number. And now you need game to text her as well?

God damn...

 

[JPlaya]

I asked for it and she gave it to me and told me to text her. I think the reason she did because she had some interest in me before, but idk now

 

[UnsworthK]

If theres any texting game, its as IceBerg described. This is what I've learnt in the past 2 weeks. You are a man. Your duty is to do manly things like work, and be busy. A woman is not going to take notice of your manliness if your prompt at pressing buttons and conversing in pixels. A man doesn't check his phone every 5 minutes seeking validation of relationship status. A girl does that.

Use your texting power for arranging dates and at the very least INTERESTING conversations.

 

[UnsworthK]

Woops. Duplicate. While this post is here I may aswell answer your question. It is not in a girls priority to text back a guy who texts her. She could be doing anything from showering to masturbating to just plain making you sweat over her reply. By looking into this you may be giving her what shes looking for - attention. And DON'T under any circumstances ask her if she has received a text because she may be slow to answer. I've made this mistake enough and its cost me the most beautiful girl I've been involved with sexually so far.

 

[JPlaya]

I'm better at being an interesting person out in person though.

 

[UnsworthK]

Then theres your answer, use texts to ARRANGE for you to see her person. That way you can show her how interesting you are in person as opposed to sharing ASCII characters.

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

Then theres your answer, use texts to ARRANGE for you to see her person. That way you can show her how interesting you are in person as opposed to sharing ASCII characters.

JPlaya is either dimwitted or looking for attention.

He's gotten paragraphs of opinions on this topic, and all he can offer in return is more stupid questions.