"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I need to learn...

Romanticfool

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Hi guys, I am a longtime lurker on this site and the time has come for me to post. So after being hurt in the past I seeked advice to improve myself which led me to this site. At first I felt like I needed to improve for 'the girl' but as time went on I realised that it was for myself that I must do this. I quit a job I didn't like and returned to study the subject I was made for.

During my study I saw this girl I liked (HB 8/9) and the self-improvement that I had undergone had given me the confidence to attempt a total cold approach. Things went well and I got her number (im 23, shes 19). We had stacks in common but I found out she had a boyfriend and had been in an extremely long LTR and so naturally retreated but I receive a text the week after that she has broken up with him (implying because she wanted to be with me).

So as we got to know each other texts became more and more frequent (a mistake I know) and things were going great. Naturally we then kissed after about a month (me going slow because she said she needed time). Almost immediately she says she isnt over her ex yet and the kiss didnt mean as much as she thought it would. She said she needed a bit of time but still wanted me in a very embarassing encounter on the street. At this point I know I should have walked but we kept in contact and this culminated on NYE where i walked into a bar and saw her kissing half the place. At this point I should have just gone total NC and ended it on my terms but for some unknown reason i answered her call the next day and said some things which i shouldnt have due to anger. This gave her the excuse to 'not want to be friends anymore.'

This is a classic example of what happens when you forget the lessons that I thought I had learned from this site and elsewhere. Guys I need a serious talking to to get my mojo back, I dont know what happened to me. This is really just me feeling sorry for myself :confused: . I need motivation! :box:
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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VladPatton

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Buy her:

-Flowers
-Candy
-Diamond ring

Throw rocks at her window and profess your love for her. She'll take you back gee-ran-tee'd!
 
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