"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I need to learn how to manage well my time... suggestions?

BannedGod

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Ok so basically what I do in a day resumes to this boring scheme:

• Gym (my passion)
• MSN (I want to lose this completely)
• Television (I want to reduce this)
• Video games (I want to reduce this)
• Work (I want to keep this, but reduce it to 10-12 hours a week)
• School (soon)

Of course I go out from times to times on weekend, but my job is over killing me (last week of work this week) so I'm always tired as hell, especially with the gym.

So basically I want to stop spending hours after hours on the computer and TV and start doing more constructive stuff to occupy myself. So far I have thought of these things:

• Reading
• Squash
• Volunteer
• Pool
• Drawing
• Bike/Roller-Blade/Hiking (bad feet so might not be a good idea)
• Read and learn on various subjects (nerdy I know, but I like it)

So yea I might not like all this stuff, but I want to give it a try so I will stop wasting all my precious time on the computer or TV. Also, this isn't very helpful since I always end up being free for the girls, and in turns this makes me give them all my attention (I currently fight to not do this, I want it to become natural). Also, it will bring more date ideas :D

So I was wondering: Do you guys have any suggestion of hobbies I could give a try to see if I like them or not so I can stop wasting all my time?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Well getting on a bike is great idea!. I havent been riding much this summer, as I got back into cars, so most of my free time is spent on that and w/ friends. I mountain bike, it's a great way to meet people and make new friends, and a lot of fun. I'm also considering getting a road bike soon, they just look like fun.
 

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I've made pretty terrific progress by simply yping up a schedule that I follow rigidly. Try it out, punish failure with exercise (I use push-ups) So if I think watching TV instead of following the schedule I do pushups. Sixty for each half an hour not followed.


...I hate them.
 

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what works for me is my 100 day goal list. I can link you to it. but now even to this day I have to make a detailed list of how my day tomorrow is going to go out. I think of each day like a puzzle. it has it's problems, and I have a time frame for everything. I always leave myself a couple of hours of free time at the end of the day.. and I tell you.. nothing is a better feeling knowing you made a goal list, did everything on it, and you have the rest of the day to let your mind be free.

I seriously haven't watched TV in 2 weeks. I think I caught Entourage like 2 weeks ago.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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yeah it's growing on me.. I wish it would be an hour. Ari needs his own damn show.. he's the sole reason I watch the show
 
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