"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I swear every time a girl looks at me for like a second and makes eye contact/smiles, I think she wants to fxck the sh!t outa me.

I know i'm a good looking guy, but it's getting to my head. I'm afraid it's deterorating my personality because i'm mostly relying on my looks to get girls...which it DOES, but still any advice?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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nah man seriously this has been bothering me for a week or so. It may sound like a joke, but it's a serious matter to me.

Another thing I noticed today is that my personality is a reflection of what i'm wearing...wierd huh?

Different outfits/threads/looks will yeild a different personality/confidence level.
 

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not weird. this happens to everybody. especially women (not a put-down, just a true factoid).

but learn to love your problem. same problem as hot chicks. and the reality and essence of it all is that human beings are ANIMALS and love and the mating game is about SUPERFICIAL APPEARANCES.

LEARN TO ACCEPT THAT.

and use the advantages that you have to get WHAT YOU WANT.

(this is advice for chicks but it works with you) - it doesn't matter what they want from you. you exist not to please anybody but yourself. use what you have to get what you want and ignore the demands of others.

also, despite the fact that the mating game is shallow, you are more than that. you know it. others know it about themselves. just remember that. i'm sure you have activities that don't rely on your looks right? so do them and remember that you're not a caricature and despite what others think, you have many facets.

delta
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Sounds like Direct Method would work for you best (Your assuming attraction) I think you should read up on Shark and Bad boy, if you can get there cds it would help too also try Natural Game Blog they have great posts on direct game.
 

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I think it's all in your head. You have some sort of mental disorder telling you people actually want to fvck you. They are just being friendly.

Looks matter to whether your fvckable or not when the oppurtunity arises.. whether they actually want your d!ck inside them happens a while later, and you did nothing to make them feel that.. so I belive your wrong about what you think.
 

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T Money said:
nah man seriously this has been bothering me for a week or so. It may sound like a joke, but it's a serious matter to me.

Another thing I noticed today is that my personality is a reflection of what i'm wearing...wierd huh?

Different outfits/threads/looks will yeild a different personality/confidence level.
i feel EXACTLY the same on that one!!!

its like i feel more confident/powerful when im dressed kinda ghetto, i feel kinda insecure when im in my work clothes, and i feel wild and crazy when im in my club clothes........when i wwear preppy, i feel kinda shy but still confident
 

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Lol.
 
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Mercury is in retrograde that's why. I VERY SERIOUSLY believe in that stuff, I check it everyday and it works.

I feel the same as both of you, I feel just awkwardish but very powerful all at once. I honestly just want to be chill so I don't know.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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