"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I need to fix this fast. I need help

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Pozitron

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Have you ever got lost while going out with your girl? I thought so. I did today... anyway.. **** that.. that's not the purpose of this.
So.. my problem is I'm not a man enough. IDK why.. let me explain the situation. Everytime we kiss.. we do so cause it's like she initiates it... with a gesture or something.

I'm not proud of this but I might say that I kissed her a good couple of times.. ( not with tongue though) but let me rephrase that.. she kissed me.
I need to lead and make moves.. I need to do what I want when I want.
I expect something and then life comes along and it doesn't happen.

Like today.. we were on the buss, I expected to kiss her like how it's done.. and then guess what.. her friend calls. FVck! So it all goes down.

I know I should lead and make moves and do what I feel and so on but for some reason I don't do it. I wait and of course I end up doing nothing. I need to be a man in this or else I'm pretty sure I will screw it up.. no matter how awesome she reacted till now.
What do you think?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Dude I have no idea who this girl is. You need to start a journal so I understand what's going on here. If you've already kissed, why can't you just kiss her?
 
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LearningSlowly said:
If you've already kissed, why can't you just kiss her?
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Common sense?
 
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Thanks for taking the time to reflect on your own actions, and figure out what you need to do.

Most people posting problems don't take the time to self reflect, so thank you for that.

To help your problem, all you have to do, is SHUT DOWN your brain and give in to the moment. Let your instincts take over. Your male ancestors didn't think "should I kiss the girl or should I not?" They just did it.

Girls are meant to be kissed, and often, and by someone who knows how.
 
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I'm a little messed up right now cause I see how I act and realize that I can just loose her. We didn't talked since we said goodbye yesterday. Even though that's not a problem.. I need to change and I need to do it now.
I don't want to regret this later so I'll do whatever I can to fix this all.. not only concerning her.. but concerning me also.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Anyway I am changing. I'm becoming a better man.
I have been and will be working out ( it sth.. I'm not overtraining) every day since this week.
I will engage school. Already did from this morning.
I am helping my family with house chores.
I am cleaning up my diet and restarting my skin treatment.
I am learning the map and the way around my town so I'll never get lost again. A little every day.. it will pay off big time.
I will go and buy a book I need. I haven't talked with her uet. I'll call her and ask if she needs it also. Maybe we meet up for that later today.. maybe not. I'll see her tomorrow I think. And it's lead time.
Don't know why now.. but yesterday after that I sent her a text sth like.. ( I don't know how to translate this properly) I will get back to you and it won't be with songs.." Like.. meaning I will catch up for that fail :D... well now it's on me. We'll see.
 
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Remember this for this is a law of nature..........Girls want you to kiss them. They love it!!! (Of course, no means no but...) When you get that feeling inside of you that says "I want to kiss her", you next thought should be "She wants me to!!". Also be able to adapt. Life happens, roll with it
 
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