"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I need to fix this fast. I need help

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Pozitron

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Have you ever got lost while going out with your girl? I thought so. I did today... anyway.. **** that.. that's not the purpose of this.
So.. my problem is I'm not a man enough. IDK why.. let me explain the situation. Everytime we kiss.. we do so cause it's like she initiates it... with a gesture or something.

I'm not proud of this but I might say that I kissed her a good couple of times.. ( not with tongue though) but let me rephrase that.. she kissed me.
I need to lead and make moves.. I need to do what I want when I want.
I expect something and then life comes along and it doesn't happen.

Like today.. we were on the buss, I expected to kiss her like how it's done.. and then guess what.. her friend calls. FVck! So it all goes down.

I know I should lead and make moves and do what I feel and so on but for some reason I don't do it. I wait and of course I end up doing nothing. I need to be a man in this or else I'm pretty sure I will screw it up.. no matter how awesome she reacted till now.
What do you think?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dude I have no idea who this girl is. You need to start a journal so I understand what's going on here. If you've already kissed, why can't you just kiss her?
 
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AlexLefty

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LearningSlowly said:
If you've already kissed, why can't you just kiss her?
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Common sense?
 
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Thanks for taking the time to reflect on your own actions, and figure out what you need to do.

Most people posting problems don't take the time to self reflect, so thank you for that.

To help your problem, all you have to do, is SHUT DOWN your brain and give in to the moment. Let your instincts take over. Your male ancestors didn't think "should I kiss the girl or should I not?" They just did it.

Girls are meant to be kissed, and often, and by someone who knows how.
 
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I'm a little messed up right now cause I see how I act and realize that I can just loose her. We didn't talked since we said goodbye yesterday. Even though that's not a problem.. I need to change and I need to do it now.
I don't want to regret this later so I'll do whatever I can to fix this all.. not only concerning her.. but concerning me also.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Pozitron

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Anyway I am changing. I'm becoming a better man.
I have been and will be working out ( it sth.. I'm not overtraining) every day since this week.
I will engage school. Already did from this morning.
I am helping my family with house chores.
I am cleaning up my diet and restarting my skin treatment.
I am learning the map and the way around my town so I'll never get lost again. A little every day.. it will pay off big time.
I will go and buy a book I need. I haven't talked with her uet. I'll call her and ask if she needs it also. Maybe we meet up for that later today.. maybe not. I'll see her tomorrow I think. And it's lead time.
Don't know why now.. but yesterday after that I sent her a text sth like.. ( I don't know how to translate this properly) I will get back to you and it won't be with songs.." Like.. meaning I will catch up for that fail :D... well now it's on me. We'll see.
 
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Remember this for this is a law of nature..........Girls want you to kiss them. They love it!!! (Of course, no means no but...) When you get that feeling inside of you that says "I want to kiss her", you next thought should be "She wants me to!!". Also be able to adapt. Life happens, roll with it
 
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