I need to become more of a bad boy seducer type and I need assistance

[star_child]

hi fellow djs

ok, so the deal is I need to become more of a bad boy because I am too good of a person and too emotionally balanced and as it turns out its messing up my game. I heard somewhere of a shocking statistic. Turns out only around 15% of guys get to have sex with around 85% of girls. do you think this is true? if so I need to become a member of that elite 15% a.s.a.p.

I am about to turn 22 in a few days. I have been studying the so suave methods and other methods too since I was 17. Good things have happened and good women and experiences have come my way. not enough of them though; this has been my best year so far and since january I have kissed with 7 girls and have had sex about 5 times with 2 of those 7 girls. it may not seem like a lot to most people here but its a step ahead for me. Still I find myself feeling more sexual frustrated than ever and Im kinda thinking its because of all the acumulated sexual frustration over the long years.

still, now that my b- day is coming up Im starting to feel like half my youth is over and I ve only had sex with 3 girls. I really want to be mr right now.
the guy they crave sex with. the guy they have more sex with. Ive figured out I learn to treat them more like objects if I want them to respond like sexual objects. Ive noticed that if you treat a women like a sex object but do it with finesse (not overtly or openly I mean but through bodyu language and indiference and such) they will give you tons of sex. if you treat them like human beings and care about how they think or feel you only get sex sporadically and a lot more time is spent doing other stuff. I really just want the sex honestly. with the sex comes everyhting else. but my problem is that Im such a good person and so smart that its hard for me to not look at women like human beings and to make fun of them and such unnecessarily. its really unnatural for me to apply ****y and funny techniques for example. I almost never do it.

my approach, the way I try to seduce women is being nice but sexual at the same time. not nice like in an afc way but like respectful and being interested in what they say and how they feel and being sweet and such while touching them and making them understand through body language that I want sex.
this as you can presume does not get me that much sex really. it like Im caught in some limbo between afc and seductive bad boy behavior but I really really need to get laid before I get old. I can already sense some of you saying concerning my last sentence "well there it is, you are desperate" and refraining me to pooks brilliant article kill that desperation. but man this is harsh. its come to a point where all the years of acumulated sexual frustration blind me of anything else and self actualization, an escencial key to don juan way of life, is becoming nearly impossible. that in turn ****s up my game even more. desperation kills desire but Im having a hard time dealing with years of a mediocre sex life. its like it doesnt even matter how much sex I get now, its like it will never ever be enough because it was never enough during this first few years. I also know all of this is way over thought and that if I was actually getting some ***** I wouldnt be going through all this crap.

another thing that ****s up my game is that I live in a conservative third world country where sex is the major tabu and catholicism is very very strong. my country has the biggest catholic population in the world.
good thing s in about 4 months Im moving to europe permanently where I am also a citizen. and I know itll be easier there (especially since I mostly like white girls and here only 9% of the population is white) because sex in europe is not a tabu and the quantity of girls I feel attracted is ten or 20 times bigger. the thing is I want to work on all the things ****ing up my game before I get there so when i do I will start a new phase and forget all about the lack of sex I suffered here. and a way to do that is learning to be more of a bad boy without actually doing something that endangers me (like driving stupidly or smoking tobacco) and to become that guy the generates lust in girls and that girls want to ****. one guy in that 15% of guys that get 85% of the worlds *****, at least in western society.

so how do you asses my situation and what can I do guys? its hard for me not to be considerate and treat people lwith respect. I never made fun of anyone in high school or anywhere else. I dont believe in that and I dont need it to make myself feel good. I already feel really good with who I am. problem is its not getting me the type and quantity of girls I would like.
what do you recomend? what can I do?

 

[00Kevin]

wouldn't you rather become a MAN then a bad boy bit-ch?

don't you know that the "bad boy" is the feminist dream tool?

 

[thederekeffect1]

Turns out only around 15% of guys get to have sex with around 85% of girls.

Excuse me for not replying to the rest of your post, but where did you get this statistic?

 

[Jariel]

Bad boy types usually get laughed at by women, unless they are geniunely hard men! Most women just want to meet a guy they feel comfortable, can connect with and find attractive.

Being a good person is not a problem; it's only a problem if you're nice to women because you want her affection or sex in return. That's supplication, women can sense it and it repels them! Basically, just try to be a fun and laidback guy, and remember, YOU have to make the move if you want anything to develop with girls.

A problem a lot of "nice guys" have but don't realise, is that their image is way too cuddly. Their hair is quite conservative, they wear thick and baggy clothes and maybe either too thin or too fat.

EG:

Here's Edward Norton looking like a sweet, harmless nice guy. Not ugly by any means, but he expresses no sexual masculinity in his appearance. He looks like the guy a girl would tell her problems to or invite round to fix her computer:

http://www.edward-norton.org/images/gallery/timeout.jpg

Here is Edward Norton again, looking very masculine, even quite intimidating. His head is shaved, he is in better shape and has a firmness to his face (muscle + low body fat):

http://escena.ya.com/quierocine/films/americanhistoryx/ahx1.jpg


I'm not saying you should go to the same extremes, but this just demonstrates the kind of impressions your appearance alone could be giving off.

 

[star_child]

Excuse me for not replying to the rest of your post, but where did you get this statistic?

Im not sure where I heard about it like I said and I do not know if its true. But it has to do apparently with something that is happening all over the animal kingdom. That is, the alpha males are responsible for most of the offspring while there are a lot of betta, gamma, delta and epsilon males that live their entire lives without generating offspring because the alphas have already enpregnated mos of the females. This is not only happening now a days apparently, but its historical and has been going on forever, with humans as well.
I read an article in a magazine where they analized the DNA string code of a bunch of people in the China Mongolia Bhutan region and it turns out 1 in every 12 people are direct descendants from Genghis Kahn. Thats because he has iver 700 mistresses and concubines. Same thing happened when the spansh conquerors arrived in America. They had land and power so they got the local women leaving a lot of the local man without chance to pass on his genes. so even if the percentages are not accurate or are plain wrong or whatever the concept in itself I think is correct. a few guys get most of the girls. for sex anyway. when the time comes to marry everyone marries. but sex is an entirely different issue. only a few get to have the most.

 

[bbestar]

philippines?


I hope you going to hungary..lol

 

[00Kevin]

I read an article in a magazine where they analized the DNA string code of a bunch of people in the China Mongolia Bhutan region and it turns out 1 in every 12 people are direct descendants from Genghis Kahn. Thats because he has iver 700 mistresses and concubines. Same thing happened when the spansh conquerors arrived in America.

Genghis Kahn was a MAN not a ***** bad boy. He sowed his seed with the trapings of strength and power

Now if you said, "I need to be come more like Genghis Kahn" then I could have respect for that.

 

[organizedconfusion]

Gengis Kahn was a TRYRANT and a killer.

i think you are going at this the wrong way, it looks to me like you are trying to compare yourself to others instead of really seeing what they are doing differently and applying the same techniques into your own.Not by analizing it and studying it- but actually doing the things that will bring you the desired outcome.You sound smart and very well put together,theres nothing wrong with that and you should'nt have to change your overall personality to fit an image that isn't you.But that dosen't mean theres no room for growth.

first off, who cares about whateveryone else is doing and their type of game.second,all you really have to do is figure out the traits that you wish to develop in yourself..thirdly, find examples of them in real life- the best way i know of (other then meeting people with the traits you desire and then hanging out with them) is to watch movies and really pay close attention to how they carry themselves,the way they act,react and treat people...in order to change yourself, you must have a model in which to work from- actors do this, it's called method acting, or getting into the character.This is just to give you an example and visually see it in action ,the traits you wish to develop.Thirdly,engage in the types of activity that natually develop the charactoristics you desire..you want to be more adventurous? make it a habit to do something exciting everyday, how about assertivness?- voice your opinion every single time you get a chance and hold your ground no matter what.How about more leaderships skills, make a ton of desicions and stick to them,take action-get used to the one making the desicions.These all lead you to developing the traits you desire through taking action...instead of trying to figure things all out in your head or overanalizing things.Trust me, i went that route for like an entire year and it's had it's usefullness- but in time i learned how to trust my instincts and my feelings during an interaction and not have to think about or worry about every last detail.

the difference between a wannabe and someone who just is-
is doing, and taking action.

Don't fall for the whole 'bad boy' thing, i can say that i am a natural bad boy archtype-but then again,that's just because of how i am and how i am wired- just like you are wired to be a certain way and so forth.It's NOT the only way to be attractive,it's only ONE way- the question really would have to be;

why does this type of image appeal to you soo strongly? and why do you think that it would be more or less successfull than the image you got going on now? say maybe you're a natural charmer,gentlemen type thats just underdeveloped and not really yet understood yet? who knows...