i need this question answered plz

[rapsta]

everywhere on this forum.. i read:
"Women arn't attracted to feminised men. Thats why nice guys fail"

i mean.. why would a woman want a guy who is all rude to her? or what does "nice guy" actually mean? a guy who does everything for her? doesnt a woman want a man who does everything for her in a LTR?
I can say.. im in a LTR and i feel like i've gone all AFC in 5 months. I like her too fvcking much and I dont wanna lose her, thats why I dont act rude. And she still seems to love me real much. But i guess this girl is diffrent? or what?
Seriously I dont get it.. im not playin with you.. I wanna know why nice guys fail. Maybe I'll learn something. And how should I just change to a non-niceguy overnight? she would notice it right off.. or something?

 

[Caveman]

Not being a nice guy doesn't mean being a jerk. you can treat her nice and do lots of things for her.

The thing is: you should not turn into her girlfriend. Be your own man, have your own life that does not revolve around her. Do not be affraid to make desicions and do not show too many weaknesses because, in the end, her image of you will change and she will feel the attraction is no longer there.

Being an afc doesn not mean you cannot get a date or LTR.

Treat your girl whatever way you want to, just make sure to remain your own man, have your own life and friends so that you will not be affraid to walk away if she starts testing you or pulling sh!t that you don't want to put up with. Oh yeah.. don't forget to be a man.

 

[rapsta]

yeah but she might get suspicious if we stop contacting eachother so much? and she might think i've lost interest for her.. maybe she will start thinking i have another girl then?

 

[Caveman]

I don't know what kind of relationship you're in so I can't tell you what to do.

How often do you guys see each other? Do you enjoy spending all this time with her or would you rather spend a little more time with your friends? Don't change overnight and if she does get suspisious, talk to her and tell her, you want to spend a little more time with your friends because you have the feeling you've neglected them.

If you see each other a little less than you want to, you'll want to be with each other even more. Which is good. Always keep her wanting more.

 

[AMF]

Its about finding the balance between giving & taking, being forgiving & being firm, being gentle & being rough.

A way to achieve this balance is to demonstrate a tough, strong resolve against the rest of the world, but allow yourself to be sensitive to her.

Human beings are designed in some way to fall in love (form a lasting attachment) over YEARS not MONTHS.

Yes, she must love you... but always respect you.

"Real love" is built upon trust and respect... not fleeting sentiments, physical urges and physiological arousal.