I need space

[clockstoppa]

Please i need help, i fell like i am burning this into the ground. I have been with my fiance for 4 years, engaged for 2. She recently told me she needed space, and moved to her moms. She said she needs some space, she only took cloths and hair stuff. I dont know what to do, i have triend everything. I am so confused, she dos not want to split our finances yet, or move her furniture out or anything, I keep trying to get here to come talk to me and she says not yet. What do i need to do to make this work?

 

[Interceptor]

You have to let her have her space.
You have to get a grip on yourself and keep it together.
You cant control anyone and you dont own anyone. So let this sink into your head.

If she needs her space, give it to her.
Let her contact you when she's ready. You keep living your life.

You may be too needy and insecure right now, and the more you try to grab tighter the more she will run away from you.
Dont go into desperate mode.
Hang in there.

 

[KontrollerX]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=126471

Read that thread.

Its over man.

Sorry.

 

[clockstoppa]

i have alredy acted so desperte, i feel so hurt, i am confused. so u think giving her space is the only thing i can do? just not call or text and wait? or should i text her and let her know in the morning i love her or what?

 

[Soprano]

You have to let her have her space.
You have to get a grip on yourself and keep it together.
You cant control anyone and you dont own anyone. So let this sink into your head.

If she needs her space, give it to her.
Let her contact you when she's ready. You keep living your life.

You may be too needy and insecure right now, and the more you try to grab tighter the more she will run away from you.
Dont go into desperate mode.
Hang in there.

very good advice

dont call her or text her...if she wants space give her more than she ever asked for

 

[Igetit!]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=126471

Read that thread.

Its over man.

Sorry.

AAAARGGGHHHH!!! KontrollerX!!!

You beat me to it.

Man,as soon as I saw this thread,I started looking for that "Breaks" thread,but I couldn't find it. I swear,you must have that thing on standby or something.

Yeah,I'm sorry too Clockstoppa.

Whenever a girl pulls the old "I need space" line,that means she's been thinking about it and contemplating it FOR A WHILE before she actually said it to you.

Not saying it can't be turned around,but it's a HECK OF A LOT OF WORK.

 

[scrouds]

Hey buddy,

I know this sucks right now, but you will have to accept its over, like the other posters have said already.

Good news is thgat she said this before you 2 got married! There's always a bright side to these things, and if you put a positive spin on this you will come out ahead in the end, even if it seems like a dark hole you're walking through.

Have you thought about going out on a date? Know any cute girls?

 

[Deniska]

I would have to agree that she needs space probably because she has cold feet and or you are way too clingy.

Its not over yet, but you need to leave her the heck a lone.

Dont date other girls till you know that its over for good between the two of you.

Your #1 mistake that you made, is being engaged far too long. You should have married this girl with in 6 month.

 

[Kal0051]

I'd start hanging around other girls (if you aren't already). Just live your life, have fun, and give her what she asked for. Who knows, maybe you'll meet a girl you like better and when this one comes back (though personally I doubt it since she's probably f-ing someone else) you can tell her off.

But ultimately it's up to you. Good luck and have fun.

 

[King Turi]

Game over, find someone else.

 

[Desdinova]

I realize that you're fvcked up emotionally right now. You feel the strong need to fix what's going wrong. You feel like if you don't fix it, there's going to be a trainwreck of an ending.

You need to keep yourself busy. Do ANYTHING to stop yourself from wanting to contact her constantly. Go out with friends, go fishing, do SOMETHING that keep you occupied. You NEED to let her do whatever the hell she's going to do.

Once your emotions calm down and you get your head on straight, that's when you can deal with the situation. You can't make any logical decisions when your emotions are touchy.

When your emotions are running rampant, you'll make stupider decisions than if you were drunk.

Again, let her do her own thing. find yourself something to keep your focus away from her. DO NOT buy her gifts right now. DO NOT tell her you love her. DO NOT look for a quick fix, because there isn't one. Just let her be.

 

[horaholic]

I realize that you're fvcked up emotionally right now. You feel the strong need to fix what's going wrong. You feel like if you don't fix it, there's going to be a trainwreck of an ending.

You need to keep yourself busy. Do ANYTHING to stop yourself from wanting to contact her constantly. Go out with friends, go fishing, do SOMETHING that keep you occupied. You NEED to let her do whatever the hell she's going to do.

Once your emotions calm down and you get your head on straight, that's when you can deal with the situation. You can't make any logical decisions when your emotions are touchy.

When your emotions are running rampant, you'll make stupider decisions than if you were drunk.

Again, let her do her own thing. find yourself something to keep your focus away from her. DO NOT buy her gifts right now. DO NOT tell her you love her. DO NOT look for a quick fix, because there isn't one. Just let her be.

Listen to this!!!!!

 

[Ganondorf]

I realize that you're fvcked up emotionally right now. You feel the strong need to fix what's going wrong. You feel like if you don't fix it, there's going to be a trainwreck of an ending.

You need to keep yourself busy. Do ANYTHING to stop yourself from wanting to contact her constantly. Go out with friends, go fishing, do SOMETHING that keep you occupied. You NEED to let her do whatever the hell she's going to do.

Once your emotions calm down and you get your head on straight, that's when you can deal with the situation. You can't make any logical decisions when your emotions are touchy.

When your emotions are running rampant, you'll make stupider decisions than if you were drunk.

Again, let her do her own thing. find yourself something to keep your focus away from her. DO NOT buy her gifts right now. DO NOT tell her you love her. DO NOT look for a quick fix, because there isn't one. Just let her be.

best answer in the whole thread

It's not over til it's over. Don't give up yet. she wants space, so give it too her. that's really all you can do

Don't listen to the negativity of "Break up and find a new girl" Just because she asked for a little space

Do your own thing, don't tell her how much you love her (this won't make her feel any better) and just give her time. She might be nervous about getting married

who knows

just wait and see. and Be prepared for whatever happens