I don't know where to begin,so Im just gonna go....
I can't seem to be able to do it. To change in the ways that I want too,and this has me greatly concerned about my own future in many ways. I just can't stop these negative thought patterns and feelings that have consumed me for a long time now. I am getting concerned cause it seems like this has affected me in many areas of my life. Not just with dating and women,but to with my own value and self potential. Going for what I want in life,following my passions,and overall self improvement and happyness. I have been listening too long to that negative inner voice,the voice that makes you lazy,that tells you you're a loser,that holds you back,that makes you afraid and gives you anxiety,rather than turning that around and making it work for you. I found this site a long time ago,it has ,made me realize a lot,both good and bad,some of the advice I found on here has sunk in,but yet I have yet to go out and actually apply it. You can read and think so much,but until you take action,nothing happens. My problems have always been socially relate in many ways,I have always been somewhat shy/introverted,not always the most sociable,and found myself very anxious in various social situations. This of course has always affected my game,if you can say I have any. I have never been able to talk to girls in the way we all want too,confident,relaxed,sexual,and dominant,why this is a problem for me,I dont know.Perhaps I never learned the right way. Perhaps I dont know how to properly use it in the way it has been described on this site. Am i asexual? I don't know. But I am concerned that I may be incel,for I have gone long periods without any sort of dating,sex,or intimate contact. It sucks.Its lonely.There have been times when I have gotten slightly jealous and bitter,although not showing it.I haven't done much to improve my own attraction,by what ever means of doing that is.I would say If I ever was the "nice guy" in the way it is described,it may have been less than normal.Thats if i remember correctly. Of course,I have never really had a girlfreind. Well,one girl I was seeing for a short time,who was the first girl I had slept with.This has me concerned for many reasons. Well,as a lack of experience and feeling behind everyone else,like while everyone else started dating and gaining the experience at an early stage in life,I did not for whatever reason. Also,my own place in ther order of things.Aside from the whole nice guys finish last thing,we know women are attracted to the alpha,lotta debate on that,but you know what I mean. This has me concerned for my own future especially the possibility of starting a family. The whole evolutinary aspects of dating,attraction etc. The whole push pull,not being needy/validation seeking etc. I mean,does it sound like a real problem,or is it all in my head? Another concern is how much looking at too much porn over time may have affected me. By that I mean staying in for long periods of time looking at porn,whether it be internet or dvd. Plus exposure at an early age.
I can't seem to be able to do it. To change in the ways that I want too,and this has me greatly concerned about my own future in many ways. I just can't stop these negative thought patterns and feelings that have consumed me for a long time now. I am getting concerned cause it seems like this has affected me in many areas of my life. Not just with dating and women,but to with my own value and self potential. Going for what I want in life,following my passions,and overall self improvement and happyness. I have been listening too long to that negative inner voice,the voice that makes you lazy,that tells you you're a loser,that holds you back,that makes you afraid and gives you anxiety,rather than turning that around and making it work for you. I found this site a long time ago,it has ,made me realize a lot,both good and bad,some of the advice I found on here has sunk in,but yet I have yet to go out and actually apply it. You can read and think so much,but until you take action,nothing happens. My problems have always been socially relate in many ways,I have always been somewhat shy/introverted,not always the most sociable,and found myself very anxious in various social situations. This of course has always affected my game,if you can say I have any. I have never been able to talk to girls in the way we all want too,confident,relaxed,sexual,and dominant,why this is a problem for me,I dont know.Perhaps I never learned the right way. Perhaps I dont know how to properly use it in the way it has been described on this site. Am i asexual? I don't know. But I am concerned that I may be incel,for I have gone long periods without any sort of dating,sex,or intimate contact. It sucks.Its lonely.There have been times when I have gotten slightly jealous and bitter,although not showing it.I haven't done much to improve my own attraction,by what ever means of doing that is.I would say If I ever was the "nice guy" in the way it is described,it may have been less than normal.Thats if i remember correctly. Of course,I have never really had a girlfreind. Well,one girl I was seeing for a short time,who was the first girl I had slept with.This has me concerned for many reasons. Well,as a lack of experience and feeling behind everyone else,like while everyone else started dating and gaining the experience at an early stage in life,I did not for whatever reason. Also,my own place in ther order of things.Aside from the whole nice guys finish last thing,we know women are attracted to the alpha,lotta debate on that,but you know what I mean. This has me concerned for my own future especially the possibility of starting a family. The whole evolutinary aspects of dating,attraction etc. The whole push pull,not being needy/validation seeking etc. I mean,does it sound like a real problem,or is it all in my head? Another concern is how much looking at too much porn over time may have affected me. By that I mean staying in for long periods of time looking at porn,whether it be internet or dvd. Plus exposure at an early age.