I need some good advice pretty badly

[The Master Disaster]

So there is this girl I work with in a group. It's just she and I for this group. We're in a 5000 college course. She about a 8 on the beauty scale, and she's part of a sorority.

We meet outside of class a lot. I'm debating on what to do because I'm just not sure which route to take.

So here is the story, we've been working on different projects for the class, and we talk, flirt, tease all the time. All the meetings prior we've been sitting close, light touching, and cracking jokes among doing work for the class.

On last Friday, we met, and she seemed reserved. She was abnormally focused on the project. I introduced a couple diversions, and she didn't even chuckle at them. She just went back to what we were doing. We didn't touch each other at all, and it was really dry meeting overall.

I want to expand and get her out of the library, but I just don't know what to do. I'm afraid I lost her interest. I mean the way we talked on Friday made it seem like we're not even friends, and I didn't do anything to screw it up.

I don't know how we went from intense IOI's to a vacuum. She went from giving me her number and sending me a friend's invite on Facebook to nothing... I don't see the logical sequence of events.

I've thought about showing no interest, but she's already doing that to me... I can't really cancel on her because of the fact that this is still a grade I'm working on, and if I don't do anything then my grade deepens.

I've also thought about just giving up and moving on, but then all the fun is lost. I see flirting as fun as hell, and I hate having the mind set of not even worrying about it because then I'm not even amused or looking forward to meeting with her.

I don't know what do you guys think? I would really appreciate some input.

 

[trv26]

Agree with Luke. Seems like it wasn't you that caused a change in her moods. Hopefully, it wasn't another more important guy in her life that was the cause. Make your move soon.

 

[The Master Disaster]

I've got some good advice. This is coming from the psychologist not the DJ. You must realize that there are other people and other things happening in her life. These are things you might not be able to control nor see. She could have been upset about something happening outside of you two. This would have caused her mind to be placed somewhere else during your meeting. Since this only happend on Friday, one day is too little to judge from. Good chance she will be back to normal come Monday.

I don't know if anything really bad happened to her, but still if she was really into me wouldn't she put that aside?

And I'm thinking, if she's not going to put more IOI's next time we meet. I'm not going to ask her out or anything. I'll just be there to do work, and chit-chatting will just get in the way. If she's going to be reserved, let's get the work done.

I have a couple other prospective women out there. If this girl wants me, she's gotta work for it.

Am I wrong to have this mindset?

 

[LostAndConfused]

no you are not wrong to have that mindset.

you should have already fvcked her. or at least hooked up.

she probably had sex with multiple guys since you first started flirting with her (shes in a sorority, come on man...nothing wrong with that though), and for a while, you probably looked like a more special guy than the other ones around her.

 

[Walking Anomaly]

It depends what, if anything, happened to her. Women are very emotional so if youre asking if she would put it aside because she's into you, the answer is likely NO. It seems like you're good in her view for the most part, and i like what Luke says about being around her when shes in good spirits.

If you are around when shes in good moods, she'll associate being in a good mood with being around you, which is good.

But... i'd suggest making a move soon. If something did happened to her, dont let her turn u into her emotional tampon and "bleed" all over you. Women dont want men who will take all their shyt imo.

hope this helps
~ WA

 

[The Master Disaster]

Just an update:

We met again today for an hour. She was really dressed up today, maybe for me... We basically had an absolute blast back and forth. I got some solid negs in. I put my knee against hers, and she didn't withdraw hers. We had our knees touching for awhile, and she didn't move it. She would Kino me. I'd Kino her. Then we would repeat. She laughed at every joke. She avoided texts and calls she got while we were meeting unlike on Friday when she answered a call, which she said she would call them in a little bit, so it wasn't too bad. I had to run to another class after an hour, but some interesting things did happen.

She started to text me, and now she wants to meet me again on Friday.

We are getting solid even perfect grades on these heavy projects were doing for this class. An email we got from the teacher went like, "Excellent proposal, I would of made some comments on it, but it was absolutely perfect. Great job!"

Oh a side note, the professor for this class is a 9.5 or even a 10 on some days. She's like 27, and my god she's fine as hell. A lil quirky about English, maybe really quirky, but all is forgiven when you're that good looking. I've used this when I'm talking to my partner. I was like, "When she's having sex and her husband just utters something, she'll just blurt out like, 'THATS A FRAGMENT!" She really laughed pretty hard even though it's not really that funny.

Also, later on after we met today she texted me and wanted to get together tomorrow for something we didn't do today that is due Thursday. I moved the time because I had a meeting, and she was completely open to any time, but yea we're meeting Tomorrow, Thursday, and Friday...

If the next couple days go well, I definitely want to ask her out on Friday, but no sooner because it'll make the next couple meetings really awkward, and it gives me time to build and build that "When the hell is he going to ask me out?" with KINO.

But I'm a little apprehensive because she is my partner for the next four weeks... If the date doesn't go well or she says no, it really will make the next couple weeks go slow and awkward.

But those next weeks would be incredible if she says yes, and we start dating. I need to figure out how I'll ask her out because after typing this. Unless anything huge pops up, I'm definitely going to ask her out, but I'm even now I'm still worried because she's a sorority girl she's interested in some other man. She's single, but I just have this slight feeling or misconception that she has feelings for another guy, even with all this above. I hope she's not just a tease.

Is there any ways of figuring out if she is or not?

 

[DevanE]

Bruuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuh!!!!

Seriously stop thinking about it so much and stop being so fukin anxious....you HO!!!. Man up!!!. If it doesn't go well who gives a fuk it's not the end of the world. She is just a girl that has something between her legs that you want on your pepe it's that simple. If you second guess and start doubting yourself...you've sabotaged your OWN self. Why would you do that...? Think good and good shall come. If it doesn't just suck it up and make the best of it. Stop worrying about things like this it does you no good.

Remember when your banging her do a couple of pumps for me alright!! and most of all STOP stressing...

 

[The Master Disaster]

Bruuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuh!!!!

Seriously stop thinking about it so much and stop being so fukin anxious....you HO!!!. Man up!!!. If it doesn't go well who gives a fuk it's not the end of the world. She is just a girl that has something between her legs that you want on your pepe it's that simple. If you second guess and start doubting yourself...you've sabotaged your OWN self. Why would you do that...? Think good and good shall come. If it doesn't just suck it up and make the best of it. Stop worrying about things like this it does you no good.

Remember when your banging her do a couple of pumps for me alright!! and most of all STOP stressing...

Haha, appreciate it man. I'll just go for it. No doubt, I'll throw a couple thrusts in for you.

 

[MisterMcGee]

You're being less DJish by talking and thinking about this so much. You gotta just do what feels right. As long as you're being yourself and she has a good feel for who you are, you should feel comfortable making a move; it's YOU making a move, and you should be confident you'll do just fine because you're a great guy. Right!

 

[The Master Disaster]

Aight, another update.

We met up today in the library for an hour and half to work on a project for the class.

Man, I faced up hill battle. She was tired, hungry, and had to go the bathroom. We had to do this tedious project which required a lot of bs'ing, but some how, some way we had a lot of fun. I don't know how; I was actually tired myself.

It seems like we're coming up with reasons why to meet with each other. We're meeting again on Friday for something. I don't know why; I guess we're just meeting to meet... We talked about it last Friday that we would meet this upcoming Friday, but today she reinforced it like there was absolutely necessary. I asked her what we were going to do. She was like, "We just have stuff to do..." I was okay sure... haha.

When we got out of the library, I walked her to her car (I was going to my dorm which was on the way). We had a freaking sweet talk with the sun setting as we walked, and it removed all doubt that she wasn't falling head of heels. I'm definitely going to ask her out on Friday.

Things are going to extremely well between us, and as much as I don't want to screw up the really good class-partner relationship I just don't want to miss my opportunity.

If I can put her in a good mood when she was hungry, tired, had to pee while we were doing an assignment we didn't care about, pssh I got this.

It's always been my weakness never to capitalize when women were nuts for me. It happened all the time high school, and it has already happened before in college.

I never had a problem getting a girl interested. I've only had problems asking them out.