"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I need some crush advice!

Have you ever successfully gotten with your High-School Crush?


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lpcullen

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Man, this has got to be the longest crush ever
Hey fellow DJ's, I need some advice. It doesn't matter to me who reads this, I sort of just need to get this off my chest. I've had a crush on this girl I know for almost a year. I had no game last year when I finally gained the courage to approach her, therefore I crashed and burned. I didn't discover the SoSuave community until after this experience because I was so frustrated with myself that I couldn't get with my crush.
Things are different now. So much has changed in one year. I used to be afraid to talk to her. I used to worry so much about what I would say to her. Now I have so much more confidence. It all started when I rapped at my High School Talent Show. This was the experience that broke me out of my shell. I performed a very personal rap for the first time in front of a large crowd. Somehow, the girl I crush on among many others watched me perform that night. I got love from mad people after that but the craziest part to this story was the next day.
The girl that I've been crushing on for a year HIT ME UP on Twitter. She sent out a public tweet that anyone could see. It said, "@lpcullen I have your whole rap on video if you want to see it!" I was pretty ****ing shocked that this girl initiated conversation with me after all the times I struggled to talk to her. I responded back like "cool, let me see it" After that, she DM'S ME, and right off the bat, asks me for MY NUMBER. Once again, I was ****ing shocked.
So, we go back and forth messaging on Twitter for a little while and I wanted to talk to her so badly that I was kind've impatient when I didn't recieve a text from her. After a while, the conversation ended with no response on her end to one of my messages. I still don't have her number but now that I think she likes me I walk up to her and talk to her whenever I see her in school. Im flirting more, I'm less nervous to talk to her, and I just want to get into her pants. I would like a relationship with her but we are going away to college after this summer passes, and I have no clue where we stand, or what she would be down for with me.
Bottom line, this is the girl of my dreams we are talking about, and being with her finally seems like more of a reality. I take her actions on Twitter as IOI's and I know that all I have to do is play it cool. I want this girl so ****ing bad, no other girls even come close. Important notes; prom is coming up soon, but prior to prom is SENIOR BANQUET two days from now. I've been getting my mack on everywhere I go. I just need to know what can I do to make my crush mine. DJ's, give me some advice!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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lpcullen

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I feel what you say ruler, somehow you know me like a bad book based on my post. Im tryna mack everywhere I go. I know about feast or famine. Right now is still a famine for me. Still optimistic tho. I want to spin plates but I have no plates at the moment. It's a process, all I need is experience and it shouldnt be hard with a don juan mindset. Thanks bro, for your honest opinion. Theres so many fish in the sea.
 

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Almost but it happens a lot after high school. It's like some unfinished business I guess and it seems so much easier to talk to than in High school
 

mynameisntNigel

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Ask her out, gauge her response, and go from there. Should be easy from this point if she seems to be so interested.
 

HPUser7

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For plate spinning, if you are struggling, try to look for at least one girl per period to consider. That will take some mental pressure off and make you look less desperate.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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