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Ok, while in the mall about 3-4 months ago, i go to a verizon stand for some help with my phone. this bad chick is workin there and she answers a few of my questions,(i was there like 15min then i left). I came back say 2-3 weeks later and looked at their new phones for like 2min while passing by, i did not speak to her but she saw me. Fast forward to a few days ago, I walk into circuit city, I go to the verizon stand and there she is. She asks me if I need help and I said im fine, then I said "you look familiar didn't you work at the mall or somethin"(knowing i knew damn well where she worked). She responds "yea i did, i was at ncc". Then i said oh yea thats where i saw u. Then she says I thought you looked familar to me too.(i took that as a + or maybe im reachin a bit) The convo pretty much ended there, i wanted to take it further but there is another employee (a guy) sitting right next to her. I really wanna talk to this girl, what do yall think i should do or say. The problem is the people that work at those stands are never alone.
 

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convo to number close

good advice. i guess i should try to go back over there next week? I'm thinking this girl has probably heard it all though (solid 8-8.5). If any one else has any good advice for an opener or general convo feel free to reply. thanks
 

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You should of asked about her job. Remember, girls like talking about themselves. Ask her how her job is.. Why she is not at the mall anymore and stuff like that.
 

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I.A.F.Y.B. said:
You should of asked about her job. Remember, girls like talking about themselves. Ask her how her job is.. Why she is not at the mall anymore and stuff like that.
i was kinda thinkin this myself, maybe i should start talking to her by asking her if they carry an item or somethin. I dont wanna come off like i'm stalkin her.
 

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soloflexin said:
i was kinda thinkin this myself, maybe i should start talking to her by asking her if they carry an item or somethin. I dont wanna come off like i'm stalkin her.
I wouldn't think about her too much. You saw her a couple times already and didn't really make much convo with her. If you don't start up a conversation with her the next time. Don't even bother again. Then, you will come off as some guy who keeps coming around her for no reason.

Like you said above. Next time you see her. Ask about a product. Then, start talking about "Her". Her job or something she is wearing the catches your eye. Put, your focus and convo on her. At the end, try to get a number.

If your not up on your social game. Look through the DJ Bible for some pointers.

That is only 1 girl out of the thousands of other girls to meet. Remember this..
 

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Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I.A.F.Y.B. said:
I wouldn't think about her too much. You saw her a couple times already and didn't really make much convo with her. If you don't start up a conversation with her the next time. Don't even bother again. Then, you will come off as some guy who keeps coming around her for no reason.

Like you said above. Next time you see her. Ask about a product. Then, start talking about "Her". Her job or something she is wearing the catches your eye. Put, your focus and convo on her. At the end, try to get a number.

If your not up on your social game. Look through the DJ Bible for some pointers.

That is only 1 girl out of the thousands of other girls to meet. Remember this..
true, if i dont get to speak to her whichever day i go, i'll just forget about her. i heard circuit city could go out of business friday. so i would have to go this week :rolleyes:
 
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