I NEED some advice. My life needs to be turned arround.

[SharinganUser]

I just feel lately, like I can't make some crucial steps forward in my life. I am lazy, unemployed, unhealthy and well that's pretty much the gist of it.


Right now I am "looking" for a job teaching English to foreigners(though in this case I am the foreigner and they are the locals). I've been looking for the last 2 months and out of those two months I've only went to 2 interviews and put in about 2 days of looking for a job. I am nervous that I won't do well at it even though people have told me it's not a hard job at all.

I have low confidence and have suffered from depression in the past.

I am not that healthy right now. I had a cold sore break out (probably herpal) after I kissed this girl I fooled around with a couple of times. I am not sure if I got it from her because I had an outbreak last year. But either way I am not to upset that I got it, I can deal with getting flu symptoms a few times a year. But it's to much of a coincidence because this girl had a sore on her lip, but I didn't notice it until after I kissed her and when I asked her about it she said it was because someone knocked her over in the club.

Wether I got it from her or not is not really important now because I've had the out break and had one even before I met her. What upset me the most is that I was sick for the last three weeks and it has basically taken away all of my energy, I can barely do 25 push ups anymore.

On top of all this, I am fat to begin with. I have been doing some exercise all this week, mostly strength training. But it's frustrating because I haven't been this weak in a long time.



Basically what I need know is:

How can I over come being a slacker?

Is having herpies going to affect how hard I can work out?

What are some things I can do to boost my confidence?

 

[pipe007]

you have to take baby steps.

for now I can only say I don't think you have herpes, because you say you have had the symptoms before.

you should always get tested if you really want proof. But don't make assumptions.

cold sores in the lips happen to some people every now and then due to stress, it doesn't have to be herpes. Now if they appeared in your genital area, then you would have something to worry about.

Other than that, I can assume that right now your life is stagnant. you are not being physically active, and you are probably displaying body language, activities, facial expressions, emotions, thoughts, ideas and mental images all related to the emotional state of being depressed.

depression is huge, so again, don't diagnose yourself with it, because the symptoms are ususally really bad.

you need to take baby steps and create momentum for yourself, start small, go for a walk in a park, start organizing your room, your bathroom, your clothes... keep doing that, keep yourself moving, listen to music, sing, start moving.

start doing what you love to do... find things you love to do and do them often... start making plans to get a job, then you start hitting the gym

then you start going out to socialize, start small, take baby steps.

start right now... as you read this, simle!!! force it!!! just smile, erect your body posture, (EVEN IF YOU DON'T FEEL LIKE IT)

and think of something positive. its a quick fix. But it will point you in the right direction.

take care

 

[SharinganUser]

THanks man. I am so drained of energy all the time. I barely manage 25 push ups, I did 7 dips today, though honestly I think that is an all time high, and a meager 2.5 pull ups. I know I have to add some running to get into shape too. I think I will also re-take up my martial arts training this weekend.