"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I need serious help with the Indian girl.

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So, a while back I posted about this Indian girl that I met. We got to know each other and went out a couple of times, and she told me that she wouldn't have sex unless we were in a commited relationship.

What I told her was that we could keep dating, but I wasn't looking for anything serious at all. I wouldn't mind having her for a girlfriend, but the moment it gets to be too much, I'm out. She agreed and we've been technically going out since then.

We fu*k, and it's not the greatest thing in the world. It's not bad, and the head is worth the trouble, but... yeah. ANYWAY. She's been putting a huge emphasis on us being a couple and she fu*king offered to buy me a laptop. o_O AND, she lied to me about the guys she's slept with. She told me I wasn't the first guy she screwed, and that she'd slept with a few others before me. total bullsh*t. We were drunk the other day and she told me that she was raped and I'm the first guy she's fu*ked on her own free will.

And now apparently she has some sort of romantic gesture planned for tomorrow and I'm not feeling any of this.

Advice guys? please? I'm at a complete loss.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I understand your confusion:

She slept with a few guys...NO, WAIT! Only one other guy and he raped her!

She's okay with a casual relationship...NO, WAIT! She''ll buy you a laptop to be her Boyfriend!

She's planning a romantic gesture....NO, WAIT!

This chick has been sniffing masala! Her brain is cooked. She can't keep her stories straight or make up her mind. Since the sex isn't that good and you don't want to be tied down, perhaps you should cut the strings before they become steel reinforced cables.



.....seriously....she'll buy you a laptop?????
 
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I don't what it is. Desi girls are smart and sexy but totally nuts. Just try to get out of it in one piece.
 
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WaterTiger said:
This chick has been sniffing masala! Her brain is cooked.
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Sniffing Masala? Watch your language

Leporello said:
I don't what it is. Desi girls are smart and sexy but totally nuts. Just try to get out of it in one piece.
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Perhaps you would have preferred she was more of a fucking whore, right? Then we'd be here bitching and moaning about one thing and not the other. :rolleyes:

Yuma said:
Advice guys? please? I'm at a complete loss.
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What are you at a complete loss for? She said she didn't want to fuck unless she was in something committed? You fucked her. Now you are complaining that she is treating the situation as something more committed and playing it off like she is nuts? I'm sorry to come off as sounding harsh but take a little responsibility.

Perhaps you prefer the feminized approach where they lie, cheat, lead you on, and have no consideration for you or your feelings whatsoever. I don't get what the problem is.

She took your word for what it was. You should take hers for what it was, too. Things seem to be getting too much for you, so you answered your own question in that its time to get out. She has been consistent in what she initially told you, just as you have been in what you told her. Now she feels you guys should be committed. She wants to buy you a laptop; woop-dee-do, at least she's not sucking off the cab driver on the way over to your house.
 
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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Sniffing Masala? Watch your language



Perhaps you would have preferred she was more of a fucking whore, right? Then we'd be here bitching and moaning about one thing and not the other. :rolleyes:



What are you at a complete loss for? She said she didn't want to fuck unless she was in something committed? You fucked her. Now you are complaining that she is treating the situation as something more committed and playing it off like she is nuts? I'm sorry to come off as sounding harsh but take a little responsibility.

Perhaps you prefer the feminized approach where they lie, cheat, lead you on, and have no consideration for you or your feelings whatsoever. I don't get what the problem is.

She took your word for what it was. You should take hers for what it was, too. Things seem to be getting too much for you, so you answered your own question in that its time to get out. She has been consistent in what she initially told you, just as you have been in what you told her. Now she feels you guys should be committed. She wants to buy you a laptop; woop-dee-do, at least she's not sucking off the cab driver on the way over to your house.
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well somebody's pissed off.
 
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Well, you've finally F'd her right? Well, since you're not happy with the job take the severance pay (laptop) and be done with it.
 
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Well, you've finally F'd her right? Well, since you're not happy with the job take the severance pay (laptop) and be done with it.
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So, you'd advise him to act like a woman would, take the gift and bail?
 
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So, you'd advise him to act like a woman would, take the gift and bail?
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So, he should take the gift and stay? If she's offering to buy a gift I say take it. Besides he doesn't give a --------about her. All he cares if F'ing her. Might as well take his severance pay.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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There's the third option.... I'm all for being selfish and all, but I wouldn't go that far.
 
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What are you, autistic? It's a potentially offensive comment.
 
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dude..you guys need to stop arguing over the comment.
agreed it is potentially offensive..lets leave it there and help this dude..

OP: Be a man, do the right thing!..lol

get out, and DONT take any gifts, because it seems you have taken enough already in the form of you being the first guy she has slept with on her own will. Her story is what she believes wether you believe it or not. So dont ruin it for the next guy, whom she will abuse because "that first guy took all i gave him and ran...so all guys are Aholes"

so if you cant handle it, tell you cant handle it.

honestly speaking, she has not done anything ridiculous, like talk about you're baby's names? or talk about getting married?
she says she wants to get you a gift and something romantic.
Women like doing romantic stuff, so this is normal.
The guying you a gift is a bit odd, but Indian women are usually like that, they like to show they care unlike western women that like to suck everything u got out of you.
so.
goodluck
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Yeah or you can take Slickaz's advice too. That works as well. although I don't agree with Slick here claiming you're gonna spoil anything for the next guy. People are gonna be the way they are. Yes, girls mess with guys like that all the time and don't think twice about it. I wish sometime I'd just get the courage to find a girl date her and break her heart just to have done it to someone but that's not me. Also because she wasn't the last girl who messed up. Still in the end somebody's gonna break somebody's heart. My question is she giving you the gift as a means to keep you or just giving it to you? If the former then don't accept it. If the latter I don't see why not. I was just talking to a girl a few days ago and she was talking of taking back a gift she had given to her ex-bf who broke up with her. I think when you've given someone a gift it's immature to ask for it back. makes me wonder were you really giving the gift or giving it for alterior motives.
 
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Spare this girl, she sounds manipulative and what she wants isn't what you want.

It's going to end really ugly if you keep persisting. It doesn't sound like you like her in what you've typed. It just sounds like you're kind of into her. I believe in karma, don't **** this girl over, just let her go and move on.

From what it sounds like, you can do better, you don't need to settle for this girl.

Just keep in mind, you got into this to create an abundance of women in your life so that you don't need to settle for this one chick.

Go work on your skillset, when you learn what you need to learn, you will receive what you need to receive.

-Kevin
 
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