"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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i need serious advice...

Websterdic

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sometime ago i posted here some issue i had with my GF.
it seemed like a dumb issue and it was.
However i tend to over think things but there are probably times where my assumptions are correct.

so this woman ive been with for about half a year. her behavior indicates shes into me. she always texts me, asks to hang, buys things for me, taks to her friends about me etc..

the problem here is that she was involved with some dude and the dude got rid of her for someone else. (this was about a year ago..) i was kinda aware of this from day one because she would randomly bring this guy up...and then again...and again.

Before an officiaI relationship was established we talked about different things that bothered me including this. i said that i thought she might have some type of emotional hang up on this person, which she obviously denied.

after that she never brins up his name but she sti says things about him but just changes his name for `someone` i know this bc. i know the dude and know stuff about him. they text or tak to each other sti i know this too...but she obviosuy claims they are friends and she does have a ot of mae friends.

i dont know how to handle this. reason one is i like her. but having this convo again is something i dont want to avoid. im someone who is needy and can be problematic but this is something ive been trying and trying hard to work on. i dont want to show her this side of me...
 

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Pimp-sicle

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The foundation of this relationship was built on faulty ground.

This woman doesn't respect you.

If she did, she wouldn't dare do the things she is doing.

Its clear that you have much more invested in this relationship than she does.......emotionally.

While its great that she does nice things for you and all; your gut is giving you the clear signal of what is going on.

You need to shift the tide here if you want any chance of making this work.

If she has a lot of male friends, you need to start hanging with female friends. If you don't have any, make some!

In other words, until she starts seeing you as the MAN she will continue to push and do as she pleases because she knows there is no real consequence.

Start meeting new girls and detaching yourself emotionally from this girl; I don't see the future looking bright if this current situation stays the same.







PIMP
 

PrettyBoyAJ

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I woulda chimedin but Pimp said everything that needed to be said. Blatant disrespect and you need to charge this broad to the game for this disrespect.
 

loveorlust

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Websterdic said:
sometime ago i posted here some issue i had with my GF.
it seemed like a dumb issue and it was.
However i tend to over think things but there are probably times where my assumptions are correct.

so this woman ive been with for about half a year. her behavior indicates shes into me. she always texts me, asks to hang, buys things for me, taks to her friends about me etc..

the problem here is that she was involved with some dude and the dude got rid of her for someone else. (this was about a year ago..) i was kinda aware of this from day one because she would randomly bring this guy up...and then again...and again.

Before an officiaI relationship was established we talked about different things that bothered me including this. i said that i thought she might have some type of emotional hang up on this person, which she obviously denied.

after that she never brins up his name but she sti says things about him but just changes his name for `someone` i know this bc. i know the dude and know stuff about him. they text or tak to each other sti i know this too...but she obviosuy claims they are friends and she does have a ot of mae friends.

i dont know how to handle this. reason one is i like her. but having this convo again is something i dont want to avoid. im someone who is needy and can be problematic but this is something ive been trying and trying hard to work on. i dont want to show her this side of me...
Sounds like a serious issue bro. If it's something you can't look past maybe it's best to break it off. That or you can give her the benefit of the doubt, but that seems to be making you unhappy so I don't know. I personally wouldn't know what to do, so good luck with that.
 
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