she makes fun of you with her other dumb friend
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I need real ADVICE on what to do. no jokes
- Thread starter Bamaboi
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
RangerMIke
Master Don Juan
When a chick reaches out to you, she is expecting you to do something... when you don't do something, then she will assume you are just game playing or are not interested, because that is what a chick would do. You are not acting like a man. When you open and read a text from a chick then take the 30 seconds to ask her out. Opening and reading a text... then waiting 4 hours to respond is weak behavior, she likely knows you read her text and now she thinks you are game playing. Never play emotional games with chicks because that is their game and they are much better at it that the average man.
Doctor Europeo
Moderator
Wow. This b1tch sound like the biggest time waster of 2019. Go ghost, next, no contact.
Walk away, and MEAN it. No texting her, ever. If for some miracle reason she reaches out again, arrange a time to see her, but on YOUR terms only. This doesn't mean invite her to your house, necessarily, but make it be on your time, your schedule, and when/where you want it to be. Anything else and she's out (which she actually is, already).
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.