"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I need motivation!

Mr.Freestyler19

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there is this girl tht always stares at me in class but i for some reason try to ignore her...she just added me on facebook.......the problem is tht the " how can a girl like her b interested in me" thought gets into my head
i need some motivation!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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HariPoter13

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You dont need 'motivation'. You need to fix things inside your head, stop thinking of yourself as unworthy.

Practice smiling in the mirror every day, smile at yourself.

Pull yourself together and go in for the kill.

P.S. People recommend these two books alot: 'Psycho-Cybernetics' and 'Think and Grow Rich'


O yea.. I think your brain is subconsciously ignoring her because you think you are not worthy of her.
 

Mr.Freestyler19

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i dont consider myself as unworthy...i am just not used to hot, popular girls liking me lol
 

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Mr.Freestyler19 said:
i dont consider myself as unworthy...i am just not used to hot, popular girls liking me lol
Which basically means you think you're unworthy to her. Like HariPoter13 said, smile everyday in the mirror. It'll boost your ego. The media has made it look like having a big ego is bad, but it really isn't; they just blow it out of proportion to the extreme.
 

Mr.Freestyler19

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i do smile to the mirror and consider myself hot, cute etc...i just need to get used to this
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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If it's going to be really hard for you to mentally "un-pedestal" her, think of it as "How can I improve myself to a level where I'd be a man she'd be lucky to have?"

When you hit that point, you'll have an automatic "I'm the prize" mentality.

Also, for the love of god, meet this girl's eye contact in class with confidence. Eve-**** a girl right and you can almost skip half of the escalation steps to a hookup.
 

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Freestyler, I agree with all the advice that has been given to you about making yourself the prize. In the short term, you should be telling yourself how amazing/ good-looking/ talented (in whatever sphere) you are on a day-to-day basis. I found writing a list of reasons "why I am awesome" on a bit of paper and looking at it regularly really helped me with this one. In the longer-term, you are actually going to have to take steps to make yourself into that prize which you have conditioned yourself to believing you are. This might entail taking up new hobbies, working out more, getting a good education, a good job, making good friends etc etc.

Easier said than done I know!
 

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Maybe she does like you right now for some strange reason.

But if you keep that "im not worthy" attitude she will become uninterested in you extremely quick.

Remember, girls like a challenge. You are the prize they are trying to catch
 
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