I need more aggression. I'm too passive.

[Vice]

So, I'm a teenager. I just witnessed a fight and I was amazed by the agression and speed, and I kind o felt self-conscious of being so relaxed and passive.

I have little confidence in my ability to defend myself. What's the best way to attain it?

I'm thinking of taking Russian Mixed Martial arts. They teach stuff like how to take care of multiple opponents, and disarm a person who has a knife or gun.

 

[Señor Fingers]

See my response to this thread

 

[Vice]

Thank you, the post was extremely informative, and it answered all of my questions. However, I've already read it before.

What effect does masturbation have on energy levels? I've noticed that I'm less social when I do it daily.

 

[Huffman]

There's some huge, 100-page discussion thread about masturbation

Pro:
- relieves pressure
- flushes those hormones out
- gets you thinking rationally again
- kills your desperation for the moment

Con:
- makes you feel good (addiction)
- steals your energy for some hours and weakens your drive (critical)

My thoughts: try to not do it every day. When possible, do it only before going to bed.
Try this out: do not masturbate for one month. See how you change. Only then can you decide what works best for you.

 

[Vice]

There's some huge, 100-page discussion thread about masturbation

Pro:
- relieves pressure
- flushes those hormones out
- gets you thinking rationally again
- kills your desperation for the moment

Con:
- makes you feel good (addiction)
- steals your energy for some hours and weakens your drive (critical)

My thoughts: try to not do it every day. When possible, do it only before going to bed.
Try this out: do not masturbate for one month. See how you change. Only then can you decide what works best for you.

That's probably what's stealing all of my energy. I'll give the old love rod a rest for a while. I think that the hormones are good for me; it keeps me out of my head when it's time to advance physically. I already have a very cool head so I don't really get irrational.

****, I just wanked yesterday, and I'm felling tired right now, despite exercising right after yesterday.

Wanking = bad

 

[cloneofstenyhoyer]

just don't screw up like I did this past weekend...acted overly aggressive.

 

[Bible_Belt]

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I kind o felt self-conscious of being so relaxed and passive.

I train mma, and can tell you that being relaxed actually helps you in a fight. If you have ever seen UFC 1, Royce Gracie defeats fighters 100 pounds heavier than him, and looks bored doing it. A lot of UFC fighters will have that look in the cage, sometimes looking like they're not even trying. When your body is relaxed, it can handle being hit harder. Being tense makes you take more damage when hit and increases your likelihood of other injuries. Any martial artist will tell you that calm, cool, and collected is the best way to fight.

 

[DonGorgon]

violence is never the answer.

 

[Adam]

Agreed with what Bible Belt says. After a couple of sessions of the martial art I practice, Wing Tsun, it became all too apparent how utterly thick it was to tense, especially your arms, when you fight. Think about it; two muscles that do the opposite of the other and your trying to tense both of them - good luck with that :crazy:

Just another example of where being collected and relaxed in a fight situation is to your advantage.

What do you meen when you say you are too passive? If some guy's giving you troubles, act, don't clog your mind with unnecessary worries and stand the fvck up to him. Say in a high school environment, someone casually goes to take the pen you're using, firmly tell him/her it's not going to happen. Once you tell a guy where to stick it once, it becomes easier. I'm not telling you to go looking for fights, but once you give out the vibe you're not to be d1cked around with, you should feel much more confidence in yourself and you won't be seen as an easy target.

@ DonGorgon: I would disagree with that statement. Words work in the majority of situations but there are some times when actions that speak louder than words are needed to be heared above the din (if you'll forgive the candid phrase ).