I need major Advice plz!

[Obi1Picard]

Hiya all I first want to say hello its nice to meet all of you I was recommended this site by a friend and it appears to have some great people who can give rather good adbice . Anyhow I guess I should first tell you a little about myself I am 16 and am going into my 11th grade year this fall meaning I'll be a Junior hurray! Haha. I'm a very very open minded person who treats everyone fairly atleast I think I do hehe =). I also think I should meanchin I have been on depression medicine and have gone to 3 phycologists(I can't spell hehe I'm sorry =() since my 7th grade year. But I think I have started to get my life straighted out to help with that depression...I just thought that might help explain my needing advice not sure anywho..

Now with summer vacation upon me I find myself un happy only because of one person. I began to like this girl my freshmen year who is also the same age as I and will also be a Junior next year. From my first day of highschool I had the biggest crush ever on her she was diffently the most beatiful women I had ever seen but.... I later saw that she was labled as "a prep" which didnt mean much to me becuase I find labels to be ridiclous and aggroant and I myself am labeled "goth,druggy" lol and No I dont do drugs nor drink its discustiing to me its just who my friends are and I tend to be called the same as they are.. Well my whole freshmen year I couldnt get the nerve to speak to her and I felt so miserably.

Well coming into my sopohmore year I decided to give it a shot and talk to her since she was in some of my classes. And let me tell you I was amazed! She was so much nicer,fun,and attrative after getting to know her she really made my life in school much better I actually wanted to come to school everyday hehe . But I soon remembered she had a 22 year old boyfriend which to me was a bit odd but I respect her wishes she actaully even told me that they agreed on to not have sex atleast till marrige....but I find he may be forcing her into things such as alcohol and such. Btw she is a straight A student with a 4.0 average she doesnt usually get below a 100 on anything no kidding she's a geneous.

Well after getting to know her alot this year I've found out alot she is very athletic,intelligent,and likes similar music as I and is very open minded. I find myself beating myself over the head alot because I want her so bad but thats also kind of childish and selfish isnt it? Well now Im lost I'm not the kind to try to steal anyone from anyone else or flirt with her knowing she has a boyfriend. Well now its summer I really feel lost I want to talk to her and stuff and I have her phone number and deep down I know she wouldnt care but then again maybe she would if I called that is....So what should I do call her? And if I do what do I talk about? Also note** I have tried very hard especially this summer to forget her and find an alternative plan. I really have truthly I want to forget her because I feel I'm not good enough for her I mean I have no job,I'm not a A student,All I can give her is love while her current boyfriend can give her money,a future now that he is in college, and I dont know. Thanks ahead of time I hope I havent made a fool out of myself also sry this was so long .

 

[WC2]

Can we say oneitis? Firstly I want to know why you even enjoy being labeled a goth/stoner or whatever if you don't even live the lifestyle? Don't you want to be your own person as opposed to trying to act like your friends? OK, enough of that I don't mean to pry into your personal life.

Look, this girl sounds like an attractive girl especially if she is with a 22 year old guy. Chances are, you're so infactuated with her that you don't have what it takes to give her what she wants. She doesn't want feelings from you, she wants feelings for you. The only way to get her feeling for you is to open her up to new experiences, fun times, and make her feel like she never did before. It's high school. She doesn't care how much love you think you can give her, or how many hours a day you can spend with her. She wants to be swept off her feet, preferably by an older, attractive guy.

I think you might want to look into improving your lifestyle a little before taking a step forward with this girl. Find a passion, get something going with your life, date some girls, and then make a rational decision about this girl. If this girl is one of the only things that keeps you going through the day (which I know she is, I've been there), then you're hopeless. Your day should be driven by what you want to do with your life; girls are just the cherry on top.

 

[ValleyDJing]

Can we say oneitis? Firstly I want to know why you even enjoy being labeled a goth/stoner or whatever if you don't even live the lifestyle? Don't you want to be your own person as opposed to trying to act like your friends? OK, enough of that I don't mean to pry into your personal life.

Look, this girl sounds like an attractive girl especially if she is with a 22 year old guy. Chances are, you're so infactuated with her that you don't have what it takes to give her what she wants. She doesn't want feelings from you, she wants feelings for you. The only way to get her feeling for you is to open her up to new experiences, fun times, and make her feel like she never did before. It's high school. She doesn't care how much love you think you can give her, or how many hours a day you can spend with her. She wants to be swept off her feet, preferably by an older, attractive guy.

I think you might want to look into improving your lifestyle a little before taking a step forward with this girl. Find a passion, get something going with your life, date some girls, and then make a rational decision about this girl. If this girl is one of the only things that keeps you going through the day (which I know she is, I've been there), then you're hopeless. Your day should be driven by what you want to do with your life; girls are just the cherry on top.

I second that opinion!

 

[Obi1Picard]

You ****ing retard I simply said I hated being labled that its just hard to get excepted by others and 2 my life style isnt bad I live a very interactive life style your using blind judgement to critisize me both of you damn it oh and btw I called her things went well so thanks for nothing.

 

[WC2]

Well you were the one seeking major advice bro. If my intention was to make fun of you, I wouldn't have wasted the time to give you all that advice. Learn to take criticism, it's a part of life youngin

 

[Vincent]

That kind of attitude will get you nowhere here.