I need HER to do something for ME.

[kev me723]

So I have been going out with my gf for about a month and a half now. Basically, anytime we are alone I could take off her clothes and get her turned on etc for sex. She's really attracted to me and it's not that hard. However, I am 16 and she is 17 which means we obviously don't live alone (please DO NOT send this to high school forum, 90% of those kids cannot help me here).

Say we are at eachother's house and her/my parents are home, but we're alone. We'll be making out and I'll finger her, but she won't continue to return the favor. We'll make out/feel each other up a lot, but unless we are totally alone and going to have sex, she pretty much just won't do anything else.

I know all girls are different, and honestly, it's not the biggest deal in the world because if I have to, I'll just wait for the actual sex, even if it's less often it's obviously great.

But I am wondering, does anybody do anything to get a woman to give you these kind of favors. I've been drunk with different girls before and just said things (suck my c*ck, etc) but I think that might be a bit innappropriate in a more sober situation.

So who knows what to do to get the other goods in a smooth way? Thanks boys

 

[The Juan and only]

well thats a toughy..

It sounds like she is simply using you and could care less if you don't get anything out of it. Any self-respecting DJ wouldn't put up with this...and there are several things you can do. Stop having "sex" with her, I'm talking cold turkey. If she liked what you were doing then she'll wonder why you've suddenly stopped doing it (you need to be more challenging): show her that she has to prove herself to you in order to get your attention....then when you finally give her another chance at the good stuff, she'll be much more eager to please you.

another approach would be to just take more control in the sex situation. when you're both naked, guide her hands and manoeuvre her into the positions you'd like during intercourse. DON'T let her walk all over you (letting her do so is probably why she doesn't repect you)

and in the long term..improve your game until women will want to jump on you and tear your clothes off. problem solved

 

[kev me723]

Like I said, the sex isn't a problem. Its when we CAN'T have intercourse because her/my parents are home. Like when we have to be quieter/not get totally naked.

Improving my game has nothing to do with it, and I will GUARANTEE you that she is nowhere CLOSE to using me, because that will NEVER happen again. It actually took me long enough to convince HER that I wasn't using HER.

 

[kev me723]

Does nobody know what to do? Where'd the DJ's all go? Well it's ok, because I'm pretty sure I'm just going to finger her and say something like "can you return the favor?" she should be more than happy to comply. I'll let you kids all know how it goes.

 

[The Juan and only]

Yeah a guess you could just ask her...although if she doesn't really want to do it then I'm wondering whether she'd do a very good job.

You really want to change her thinking so she WANTS to do it for you..or you could get some self respect and move onto a woman who is more worthy of your time.