"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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ChrizZ

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Hi,

I live in a small college town in bumfvck Iowa. Everybody pretty much knows everybody.

The thing is there is a very limited supply of hot women. There is lots of competition and women have pretty much all the power which pisses me off.
Most of them also of course have boyfriends which they are totally in love with and usually end up marrying. All the other guys here start dating down and date only fat/ugly chicks. I don't wanna do that though.

The thing is if I get rejected by a chick I like, word spreads around and my chances of hooking up with a hot chick decreases dramatically.

Any ideas?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Warrior74

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Take your time.

Don't hoe chase. Don't run up on a girl just because she's hot.

Wait for choosing signals or IOI before approaching.

Make friends.

Create a social circle or join one, join groups.

Be patient. Don't be a in a rush.

See if there are other towns nearby you can go practice in.
 

ChrizZ

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Warrior74 said:
Take your time.

Don't hoe chase. Don't run up on a girl just because she's hot.

Wait for choosing signals or IOI before approaching.

Make friends.

Create a social circle or join one, join groups.

Be patient. Don't be a in a rush.

See if there are other towns nearby you can go practice in.
That actually makes a lot of sense. Thanks bro!
 

DonJoseCantosie

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Yea, isn't there any big cities nearby that u could go to?

But Warrior, what if most of the girls don't give him IOIs before approaching? Gonna not go up to her? If he's saying that not that many girls, that can be limiting...is it not?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Warrior74

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DonJoseCantosie said:
Yea, isn't there any big cities nearby that u could go to?

But Warrior, what if most of the girls don't give him IOIs before approaching? Gonna not go up to her? If he's saying that not that many girls, that can be limiting...is it not?
Yah. of course it is. Tuff. Because its such a small place you don't want to be the guy running up in the face of the 12 hot girls there. talk about ruining your rep. thats why I said to be patient. he's obviously gonna be there a while. He has to use this time to learn to control himself. Sucks for him. Cry me a river. he's gotta man up and handle his ****. And believe me. they will notice that hes a man who can control himself. He might find himself in the secret society if hes friendly and sociable but not desperate.
 

saber

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i live in l.a. so i dont run into this problem but you can always reopen girls

there are quita few girls that ive hit on who were not super interested but i run into at bars/clubs

one night I walked up to a girl talking with this guy and start making out with her (not a sigle word spoken) in front of tons of people at a crowded bar and instantly girls (that i had oppened before as well as new ones) started coming up to me left and right

I showed value and they responded despite the fact I had made less than effective attempts in the past
 
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