"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I need help. PLEASE HELP.

What is my situation?


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KostaTheGreek

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Im not the most popular kid in highschool. Im in grade 9 and people hate me. I want to know why. Here is what I have done, and maybe someone can help me find out for sure what I am doing wrong.

GOOD POINTS:
1. I get with a lot of girls, they think I am really hot.
2. I have friends, Im just shy around people.
3. I hang out with my cousin on lunch (hes in grade 11).
4. I hang out a lot.
5. I take pictures of myself on facebook and add effects to make it look cool.

OTHER POINTS:
1. I comment "cutie" on a lot of girls pictures, is that bad?
2. I dont really socialize with the "rich kids" because Im nervous and they probably wont like me.
3. I try to be popular, I just , cant, I get called faggot A LOT even though I am not gay. Why?
4. In the summer, I would call my friend every day, he would start to hang up on me randomly after a while, after this, I wasnt being invited to parties or anything any more. And I try to talk to him and everything seems fine, but hes really quiet when Im talking to him around his other friends.


SO WHAT GIVES? I JUST WANT TO HAVE FUN IN HIGHSCHOOL, BUT I CANT HAVE THAT :( :cry:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Ice882

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hahahahah
 

Sherlock-Holmes

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Hey Kosta,

What will you think, when someone who comments (or chat in fact) alot online, but hardly talk in real life?

That creeps me out dude. A person stalking girls on Facebook, looking at their pictures. That's my initial opinion of you. But you're shy. I get it.

People don't think you're hot, and the greatest mistake is to think they think you are. However, DO NOT LET YOUR CONFIDENCE DOWN. Just don't assume their looking at you all the time.

The only problem is that you're shy. What's there to be afraid of? BE CONFIDENT. You're similiar to everyone else, you dont have a fvcking mole across your whole head.

Don't try to be popular, the more you seek it the more it will drift. You are popular yourself and you know it. And please stop taking too much pictures of yourself. That gives us a feeling of "gayness". Just put 1-5 pictures. That's more then enough.

Cheers.
 

eaglez1177

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KostaTheGreek said:
Im not the most popular kid in highschool. Im in grade 9 and people hate me. I want to know why. Here is what I have done, and maybe someone can help me find out for sure what I am doing wrong.

GOOD POINTS:
1. I get with a lot of girls, they think I am really hot.
2. I have friends, Im just shy around people.
3. I hang out with my cousin on lunch (hes in grade 11).
4. I hang out a lot.
5. I take pictures of myself on facebook and add effects to make it look cool.

OTHER POINTS:
1. I comment "cutie" on a lot of girls pictures, is that bad? well this definitely contributes to why some guys may think your gay. "cutie" is a very girly word, which usually only girls use. I mean i RARELY hear guys use the word "cutie" unless theyre completely joking.
2. I dont really socialize with the "rich kids" because Im nervous and they probably wont like me.so what. Stop worrying about what others think of you and just be yourself.
3. I try to be popular, I just , cant, I get called faggot A LOT even though I am not gay. Why? Im going to bet that you have a lot more friends that are girls, socialize mainly with girls, and hang out mainly with girls. im also going to bet that you dont have that many friends that are guys, and usually dont talk to guys that much. This is usually the case when it comes to guys who arent gay yet still get called gay (or called a fruitcake) by all the other guys. To be honest, the easiest way to fix this problem is to stop trying to be something your not (whatever that may be), be yourself, and actually interact with the guys so that they can understand that your not actually gay. Ya know like hang out with them, become friends, etc. Often times guys will associate a guy who hangs out mainly with only girls and barely any guys as that "gay best friend" that all the girls have.
4. In the summer, I would call my friend every day, he would start to hang up on me randomly after a while, after this, I wasnt being invited to parties or anything any more. And I try to talk to him and everything seems fine, but hes really quiet when Im talking to him around his other friends. You need to learn how to take a hint. This dude clearly isnt your friend, and feels embarassed around you probably because he doesnt wanna be seen with the guy that is labeled as being "gay". After he started hanging up and not talkin to you much, you shouldve taken the hint. To make matters worse, you tried to talk it out with him, which you should not have done at all.


SO WHAT GIVES? I JUST WANT TO HAVE FUN IN HIGHSCHOOL, BUT I CANT HAVE THAT :( :cry:
Hope that helps

EDIT: and if any guy gives you sh*t about bein gay, why wouldnt you just reply back that you hooked up with blah blah chick over the weekend and get ass all the time?
 

Sir Psycho Sexy

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KostaTheGreek said:
5. I take pictures of myself on facebook and add effects to make it look cool.
Biggest thing that jumped out at me was that. Dont take pictures of yourself and especially dont add effects to make it look cool. lol.....
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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eaglez1177

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^Yea if you havent noticed, thats another thing that a lot of girls do...i dont think ive ever seen guys do stuff like that
 

Ice882

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sooo you guys are replying seriously to this.

this guys is subtly trolling, and in a funny way. He's probably laughing his as.s off at this.
 

eaglez1177

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Nah i dont think its a troll cuz ive got a few kids in my grade who arent gay yet still get made fun of like crazy
 

Ice882

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he'd have to be SO oblivious to not realize his mistakes, though...
 

eaglez1177

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Lol trust me man, this is nothing compared to some of the other guys that have come onto these forums
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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