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Master Don Juan
My story has a ton of details i can not even include in one post. Ill try to summarize as much as possible.
On new years eve I met a girl in a 3 year LTR. We had instant attraction. She admitted she was attracted to me and started developing feelings for me. She told me things with her boyfriend were turning stale. We ended up making out that night.We started texting and flirting EVERY day. I originally started out texting her for entertainment and maybe hooking up when she was in town. I had also being going through a dry spell with women before her, i was almost in depression. She became the light of my life. Talking to her got me through my days, gave me something to look forward t
ne problem was she lived 6 hours away so we only saw each once every 1-2 months. When we met in person everything was perfect, we got along great, physical attraction, ended up sleeping with her on our second date. All this time she still officially had a boyfriend, but never mentioned him to me, always flirted with me, which I know are good signs.
This progressed until July, talking every day over text, seeing each other once a month. I was falling more and more for this girl. She came down for a whole weekend with me, which was literally the best weekend of my life. One mistake ill admit was i made her the centre of my universe, my mood definitely depended on her, and i stopped putting effort into gaming other chicks toward the end
On our last meeting in person I told I thought we should be together, her other relationship was going no where and we were great together. Her initial reaction was shocked, she later told me she didnt think i was in it for a relationship, just for the chase. Which was true until lately, she told me she didnt think it would work, because she cant stand long distance relationships, and seeing me once a month. I played it cool and brushed and said ok, i wasnt going to press the manner.
The next day i get a text saying she doesnt want to leave, and she wants to be with me, but she still doesnt know if the distance will work. We go back and forth for days, thinking of it will work. We started having phone calls which we never did before. 2 weeks later where we still hadnt made a decision with our relationship, i gave her a call and basically gave her an ultimatum, saying she has to decide. She said she didnt want to attempt long distance, I played it cool on the phone , while dying inside. Keeping in mind the boyfriend was still in the picture (however he was out of the country for the summer). 2 days later i get a text message saying shes changed her mind, that shes dumped her boyfriend and wants to be with me. Stupidly I dont put up much of a struggle, and tell I wanted it still too.
The next day apparently her ex called her and told her he was having a hard time with the break up . She called me and told me she couldnt start a new relationship because it was too fast, and she thought it was disrespectful to her ex who shes dated for 3 years.She wanted to make sure he was ok. She told me shes still wants to be with me too. Anyways we drift further apart,2 weeks ago i get a phone call saying her and her ex have been talking on the phone a lot, and shes thinking about getting back together with him. I immediately tell her im done with this whole situation, delete her number, delete her off facebook.I creid for the first time in years, felt like i just lost my future, and one of my best friends. I put all my eggs in one basket. Haven't talked to her since.
This was 9 days ago. I literally feel like i have hit rock bottom. I know it doesnt make sense, i know i should have seen red flags. I know we werent technically dating, but it felt like it, talking to someone every day, she brought me out of a dark place, which im falling back into now. Ive looked up every thread on here about getting over a breakup. Ive tried everything, hang out with friends, family , exercise, going on dates. Nothing works. I live by myself and work a job i dont like. I come home to an empty house and its just lonely. I think about every word this girl ever said to me thinking about where i went wrong. I know in my gut her interest level is high, and still is high. She just flip flops so much, i dont know how she can change her mind over the phone like that.
My question: Every thread i read says no contact is the best way to go if you want any hopes of getting her back. I deleted her number, her facebook, this was 9 days ago, ater talking to her every day. So far she called my bluff and hasnt contacted me either. I know calling her gives her all the power, but i feel like i have to do something while her interest level is still high. This no contact is literally killing me, i look at my phone all day, i cant sleep. I have been rationalizing to myself if i have already lost her, than phoning her cant make it any worse. I have alot to say and I want to attempt at getting her back. Does no contact work, or should i make one last run at it for my sanity?
Thanks for taking the time to read this, i treid to summarize as much as possible. This no contact thing is killing me, i dont know if its its helping me, or shes just forgetting me. Im so close to calling her to get it off my chest. If it backfires, im not really any worse off than i am now. No contact apparently evens the power out, and seems like a better move, but its killing me.
On new years eve I met a girl in a 3 year LTR. We had instant attraction. She admitted she was attracted to me and started developing feelings for me. She told me things with her boyfriend were turning stale. We ended up making out that night.We started texting and flirting EVERY day. I originally started out texting her for entertainment and maybe hooking up when she was in town. I had also being going through a dry spell with women before her, i was almost in depression. She became the light of my life. Talking to her got me through my days, gave me something to look forward t
ne problem was she lived 6 hours away so we only saw each once every 1-2 months. When we met in person everything was perfect, we got along great, physical attraction, ended up sleeping with her on our second date. All this time she still officially had a boyfriend, but never mentioned him to me, always flirted with me, which I know are good signs. This progressed until July, talking every day over text, seeing each other once a month. I was falling more and more for this girl. She came down for a whole weekend with me, which was literally the best weekend of my life. One mistake ill admit was i made her the centre of my universe, my mood definitely depended on her, and i stopped putting effort into gaming other chicks toward the end
On our last meeting in person I told I thought we should be together, her other relationship was going no where and we were great together. Her initial reaction was shocked, she later told me she didnt think i was in it for a relationship, just for the chase. Which was true until lately, she told me she didnt think it would work, because she cant stand long distance relationships, and seeing me once a month. I played it cool and brushed and said ok, i wasnt going to press the manner.
The next day i get a text saying she doesnt want to leave, and she wants to be with me, but she still doesnt know if the distance will work. We go back and forth for days, thinking of it will work. We started having phone calls which we never did before. 2 weeks later where we still hadnt made a decision with our relationship, i gave her a call and basically gave her an ultimatum, saying she has to decide. She said she didnt want to attempt long distance, I played it cool on the phone , while dying inside. Keeping in mind the boyfriend was still in the picture (however he was out of the country for the summer). 2 days later i get a text message saying shes changed her mind, that shes dumped her boyfriend and wants to be with me. Stupidly I dont put up much of a struggle, and tell I wanted it still too.
The next day apparently her ex called her and told her he was having a hard time with the break up . She called me and told me she couldnt start a new relationship because it was too fast, and she thought it was disrespectful to her ex who shes dated for 3 years.She wanted to make sure he was ok. She told me shes still wants to be with me too. Anyways we drift further apart,2 weeks ago i get a phone call saying her and her ex have been talking on the phone a lot, and shes thinking about getting back together with him. I immediately tell her im done with this whole situation, delete her number, delete her off facebook.I creid for the first time in years, felt like i just lost my future, and one of my best friends. I put all my eggs in one basket. Haven't talked to her since.
This was 9 days ago. I literally feel like i have hit rock bottom. I know it doesnt make sense, i know i should have seen red flags. I know we werent technically dating, but it felt like it, talking to someone every day, she brought me out of a dark place, which im falling back into now. Ive looked up every thread on here about getting over a breakup. Ive tried everything, hang out with friends, family , exercise, going on dates. Nothing works. I live by myself and work a job i dont like. I come home to an empty house and its just lonely. I think about every word this girl ever said to me thinking about where i went wrong. I know in my gut her interest level is high, and still is high. She just flip flops so much, i dont know how she can change her mind over the phone like that.
My question: Every thread i read says no contact is the best way to go if you want any hopes of getting her back. I deleted her number, her facebook, this was 9 days ago, ater talking to her every day. So far she called my bluff and hasnt contacted me either. I know calling her gives her all the power, but i feel like i have to do something while her interest level is still high. This no contact is literally killing me, i look at my phone all day, i cant sleep. I have been rationalizing to myself if i have already lost her, than phoning her cant make it any worse. I have alot to say and I want to attempt at getting her back. Does no contact work, or should i make one last run at it for my sanity?
Thanks for taking the time to read this, i treid to summarize as much as possible. This no contact thing is killing me, i dont know if its its helping me, or shes just forgetting me. Im so close to calling her to get it off my chest. If it backfires, im not really any worse off than i am now. No contact apparently evens the power out, and seems like a better move, but its killing me.
