There is a cute girl that works at the library I am currently studying at now. She hasn't been working here long and I have only talked to her to borrow stuff. Now, I want the number. She's pretty hot also, I just saw her bend over and I was like "DAMN!!!" Basically, this place closes up soon, so I want to know when and how do I put myself out there without completely putting myself out there. All advice greatly appreciated. I want to be really smooth.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
donjuanjovi
Senior Don Juan
Walk over, introduce yourself and ask her if she'd like to get a cup of coffee after she's done work.
tr0ublemaker
Don Juan
i'd spit like,
"what's your favorite book genre?"
then blah blah blah, and finally, "i've got to go..but i want to continue this conversation, so i'm going to need your #"
something along those lines
"what's your favorite book genre?"
then blah blah blah, and finally, "i've got to go..but i want to continue this conversation, so i'm going to need your #"
something along those lines
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
What is it with you friggin' coffee freaks and your 'safe dates'? No coffee, got it? Sweet Mother Mary, would it be so bad that a woman actually might think you're attracted to her? Caffiene doesn't make chicks hot, alcohol makes them hot.
JUAN, here's what you do, find an IN. Don't bug her. Wait till she's ready to go and 'bump into her' as you leave. If she works in the library, you might set something up by asking her 'directions' on where to find a book on mixing martinis. Once she shows you that (if she does) then aske her where to find a book on existentialism or some such sh!t that will make her raise an eyebrow. Ask her to show you where some other books are on fashion or starting your own business. Keep it random. If you notice a tattoo on her ask her to show you a book on that. She'll get the hint sooner or later that you're playing with her. Just keep it ****y & funny, like you already know where all these books are. Look for an opportunity to Neg her. At the end of all of this tell her, "ah forget it, I think I'll just do some real world studying, do you know of any good clubs around here?" Play the sucker to catch a sucker. If you game it right she'll laugh at all the run around and tell you about some club she knows of (if she's got an IL in you), then tell her "that sounds cool, when can I meet you there?" ABC, always be closing. Set the frame and make her follow.
JUAN, here's what you do, find an IN. Don't bug her. Wait till she's ready to go and 'bump into her' as you leave. If she works in the library, you might set something up by asking her 'directions' on where to find a book on mixing martinis. Once she shows you that (if she does) then aske her where to find a book on existentialism or some such sh!t that will make her raise an eyebrow. Ask her to show you where some other books are on fashion or starting your own business. Keep it random. If you notice a tattoo on her ask her to show you a book on that. She'll get the hint sooner or later that you're playing with her. Just keep it ****y & funny, like you already know where all these books are. Look for an opportunity to Neg her. At the end of all of this tell her, "ah forget it, I think I'll just do some real world studying, do you know of any good clubs around here?" Play the sucker to catch a sucker. If you game it right she'll laugh at all the run around and tell you about some club she knows of (if she's got an IL in you), then tell her "that sounds cool, when can I meet you there?" ABC, always be closing. Set the frame and make her follow.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
zerocelcius
Master Don Juan
RT knocks it out the park agian!
Thanks for the advice guys. I kind of punked out today but I did stick around to observe if she left with anybody but she took off in her own car. As far as I know, she may be available but I'll have to check for a ring next time. I didn't really have an opportunity to move in because she was next to a male co-worker the whole time (no competition) and a lot of people I know were around the library, which is very quiet. We have exchanged a "hi" a couple of times before and I told her "bye" as I left today but I haven't gotten a name. I need to do something quick because I want that a$$. She'd make a cute gf, too.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
OK,
A.) Stop thinking 'girlfriend' and start thinking 'girlfriends'. No monogamy for you until you're 28 pal, got it?
B.) Every girl is available unless she's got a wedding ring on (and some of those are available too).
You want this chick as one of your 'girlfriends'? Hold eye contact with her a beat longer than you normally would and smile at her while saying "hi" when you see her next. Drop something clever about getting her name. Look at her chest kind of confused for a second, like she's got something on her shirt, then say "I guess you're not wearing your name tag today?" (knowing of course that they dont have name tags), this then prompts her to give you her name. Ice broken, game on. Remember, women communicate covertly, she'll pick up on what you're doing.
A.) Stop thinking 'girlfriend' and start thinking 'girlfriends'. No monogamy for you until you're 28 pal, got it?
B.) Every girl is available unless she's got a wedding ring on (and some of those are available too).
You want this chick as one of your 'girlfriends'? Hold eye contact with her a beat longer than you normally would and smile at her while saying "hi" when you see her next. Drop something clever about getting her name. Look at her chest kind of confused for a second, like she's got something on her shirt, then say "I guess you're not wearing your name tag today?" (knowing of course that they dont have name tags), this then prompts her to give you her name. Ice broken, game on. Remember, women communicate covertly, she'll pick up on what you're doing.