"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I need help. I am become a validation addict!

BigOlePappy

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Ok, so I can pick up 8/10 girl's digits.
Sex is no longer a big deal anymore.
I have no fear of rejection.

I have improved myself greatly, BUT now i'm addicted. I have to have validation from women every single day. If I don't get it I feel real low.
I don't really know how to explain this... anyone else get the gist of what I am talking about?

Its like my self worth is becoming directly proportional to my success with women each day. Its not even the sex I'm addicted to. WTF!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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LA_Chico

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yo bro, i feel like that sometimes, its cool man. just hang out wit ur bros and get ur mind off it
 

ScrewIt

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I think you just need to lay low for awhile and focus your attention elsewhere, hobbies/career/friends/etc.
 

BigOlePappy

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It sounds like a silly problem, but it is really starting to drive me crazy.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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