"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I need help getting this girl I'm friends with

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I have asked many advice from dating experts and they say she considers me to be a good friend. I heard this is very hard and I need to do a 180. What is a good way to put a dose of sexuality into our relationships because I really like her and want to ask her out but afraid I might be rejected.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Troll alert on.
 

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How am I a troll? I am trying to ask advice for this girl I am friends with and want to become her girlfriend and take it to a different level but couldn't find good reasons so want to take it to a dating forum like this...
 
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You cant. How would you feel if this girl tells you she slept with another guy and got dumped afterwards and complain that all men are liars or jerks? You'd hate her guts for wasting your time. Come on it's not worth it, move on and forget about her unless you want to hear that come out of her mouth in the future. She'll be a ho for another guy and you never get pvssy.
Heck with her.
 

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How can I not? Our relationship is a bit flurty and sexual. She is hot and never been dumped before though some guys have made fun of her but she never gives me any of that bullcrap...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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INeedHelp1 said:
How can I not? Our relationship is a bit flurty and sexual. She is hot and never been dumped before though some guys have made fun of her but she never gives me any of that bullcrap...
How is it sexual?
 

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InedHelp1 Chill

djbr is just messin with ya and Luke is too busy fighting the Galactic Empire to have mastered the art of seducing the ladies (I am told he is pretty good with the ewoks babes tho, they go crazy for levitation tricks!)

So the first thing is to chill. Chill. Yeah, lean back, relax, like that, you are a cool cat. Don't get all nervous and defensive. That's going to turn your chickie off.

Okay, heres the deal, most guys make the mistake of believing if they relate to women on an emotional level and really connect with a woman shes going to go ga ga.

**** that ****.

You are just making yourself into a chick.

You need to make her see you as a sexual being.

So here are some tips.

Firstly, go read the DJ Bible. There is a link down the bottom of the page.

Go! Read it!

You back? You still need advice? Did you read the book of pook and weapons of mass seduction? Go read it again.

Sigh. Okay.

Learn about positive body language and eye contact. Whenever in her presence move nice and slow yet decisively. Don't slouch, stand with your feet apart, shoulders back. Hold eye contact, never let that ***** stare you down, but don't stare like a freak.

Now learn to touch her. Nice and soft on the lower back, on the arm. Once you are both used to that touch her hair now and then.

Get your hands on a nice cologne Get her to smell you and then smell her and say, "ahh you smell good" and smell her neck for a while, be close enough so she can feel the heat of your body on her neck.

If she's a ***** to you don't take **** and put her in her place. But don't lose your cool. If you don't feel up for that ignore her for a week.

If she's always nice then get in play fights with her and smack her arse!

Tickle her. Show no mercy!

Don't always be available, sometimes put the boys before her, if you don't have boys then be busy with something cool.

Talk to her about sex. Talk to her about other girls. Ask her to help buy you clothes tha make you look sexy.

Tell she's looking really hot when she's looking extra hot.

If she's still hanging out with you after doing all this you'll be ****ing.

JJ
 

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INeedHelp - first of all, get a better screen name, I hated typing that.

But to answer your question in a brief fashion, you wanna take things to the next level you've gotta stop acting like her friend and start acting like a lover. How do you do that? Well... stop seeing her so much, start dating other women and make sure she knows it, change your appearance, when you're around her bust her balls and tease her, essentially become a confident dude.

Don't try to act all cool in a week and expect her to see you as some new and improved mega alpha male. She won't believe it at first - it will take a while before she sees your actions as congruent with your new self. In a few months of being the cool guy, start flirting with her and if she's receptive, make a move.

In all honesty, converting a friend into a lover is not worth the hassle, but hey, it's your dime.
 

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How about inviting this chick to my house in a weeks time. Do some fun things like watch movie and on MSN the stupid stuff that shes interested in. Then kiss her or hug her while shes over? Does this sound good?

Also when I kiss her do you think stroking her hair first is good if she likes it? I heard this always works.
 

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INeedHelp1 said:
How about inviting this chick to my house in a weeks time. Do some fun things like watch movie and on MSN the stupid stuff that shes interested in. Then kiss her or hug her while shes over? Does this sound good?

Also when I kiss her do you think stroking her hair first is good if she likes it? I heard this always works.
Not gonna work man. All you will do is freak her out and make her leave. You need to convert her image of you. This will take time. Move on for now.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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We hug once in a while but the dating expert whos my friend claims we are just friends due to the information I told him about me and her the relationship.

What is better advice than dating other women? I don't want her to forget about me since we are friends.
 

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Dude - what you want to hear isn't going to work. You two are friends, she doesn't see you sexually. Your best bet is to make her see you that way by you making other women happy. Then she will think, I want to be happy. Why didn't he ever try to make me happy? Maybe we aren't friends, maybe I could like him. Her female jealousy will come into play. It will happen, I assure you, but you have to believe it will happen.
 
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