"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I need help from an experianced don juan here...,,

chrisgoodrich25

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so i meet this girl online..we talk for a week or two..she comes and meet one night and we hang for awhile..had a blast..I went home the next day we had a breakfast date..I was going through alot and didn't enjoy the date to much..I think she did..yet I told I didn't..I called her nd said I'd give her a second try..she immidatley got off the phone said she'd call me back..then she would only text me so I was going to next her. I went ahead and deleated her from my friend list on myspace..the very next day she calls..I'm busy don't answer and she texts me saying how she hurt I would do that and that her voice wasn't heard..I return her call that night no answer...I e-mail her a couple days later saying that what I said didn't come out right..I ment we could give it another try..now we corrospond only through e-mail which sucks cause thats where we started.this has been for about 2 weeks .now I've still been meeting and dating other women and the more I go out with I see that chick was way cooler..but I messed it up..I got my plates spinning wit about 5 girls right now her included..so what I'm trying to say is I need a more experianced don juan to give me some tips on how to do some damage control..I would still like to get to know her but am at a loss of what to do now..I look at it like a challenge as she seems to be worth it ..yet I also have some others that have been feeling my time..so any thoughts???
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Forget about her. This isn't what you want to hear right now, but you need to just move on and find some other hot girl. You're chasing her now, and she's just moving farther away.

Instead of wasting your time on her, spend the time going out and meeting new women. They're everywhere. If a single girl gets you upset like this, that means either you aren't spinning enough plates or you don't feel like you are truly happy on your own. Improve yourself, meet some more women, and forget about her.
 

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Jesus christ OP, try breaking up that post rather than one big block of text!!!!

Incidentally, I totally agree with Mr. Bond.

Forget about her! It's a waste of time and effort which could be used on more productive things.
 

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i think you guys are right I pretty much.. have been feeling the same way...kinda see where it goes..perhaps I'll go try ang get some more plates in the air..This is all new to me since # months ago i got out a 7 year realltionship..I don't need a chick and am trying to focus on me...although it would be nice to get laid every now and again and its nice to have someone around every once and while..I'll work on it..thanks guys
 

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LOL...yeah...i was thinking the same thing...haha!

Funny!

:crackup:

Yeah bro...ease up on the Run-on Sentences....Jeus Christ...

What did he say?

LOL!

PS. Forget this chick...sounds like a lot of problems.

zemaj said:
Jesus christ OP, try breaking up that post rather than one big block of text!!!!

Incidentally, I totally agree with Mr. Bond.

Forget about her! It's a waste of time and effort which could be used on more productive things.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I.A.F.Y.B.

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chrisgoodrich25 said:
so i meet this girl online..we talk for a week or two..she comes and meet one night and we hang for awhile..had a blast..I went home the next day we had a breakfast date..I was going through alot and didn't enjoy the date to much..I think she did..yet I told I didn't..I called her nd said I'd give her a second try..she immidatley got off the phone said she'd call me back..then she would only text me so I was going to next her. I went ahead and deleated her from my friend list on myspace..the very next day she calls..I'm busy don't answer and she texts me saying how she hurt I would do that and that her voice wasn't heard..I return her call that night no answer...I e-mail her a couple days later saying that what I said didn't come out right..I ment we could give it another try..now we corrospond only through e-mail which sucks cause thats where we started.this has been for about 2 weeks .now I've still been meeting and dating other women and the more I go out with I see that chick was way cooler..but I messed it up..I got my plates spinning wit about 5 girls right now her included..so what I'm trying to say is I need a more experianced don juan to give me some tips on how to do some damage control..I would still like to get to know her but am at a loss of what to do now..I look at it like a challenge as she seems to be worth it ..yet I also have some others that have been feeling my time..so any thoughts???
You shouldnt go on dates with women when, you are having a bad day. You also, shouldnt tell women you are interested in. That you did not have a good time with her.

Why next a girl cause she texts you? Lots of women text and would rather text than call.

Bottom line.. Keep seeing other women. Just wait for her to contact you.
 

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I.A.F.Y.B. said:
You shouldnt go on dates with women when, you are having a bad day. You also, shouldnt tell women you are interested in. That you did not have a good time with her.

Why next a girl cause she texts you? Lots of women text and would rather text than call.

Bottom line.. Keep seeing other women. Just wait for her to contact you.
I see what your getting at I was being needy...practice, practice practice..
Im doing now that a few more days have past and am hitting up other chicks meantime..if she hits me up then cool..if not f#ck her..right..Thanks for the info..
 

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chrisgoodrich25 said:
I see what your getting at I was being needy...practice, practice practice..
Im doing now that a few more days have past and am hitting up other chicks meantime..if she hits me up then cool..if not f#ck her..right..Thanks for the info..
I dont know if you were being needy or not. Though, this is some experience you will learn from for next time. :up:
 
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