I know there are a lot of people on here with good jobs, and in high positions, but i'm not one of those people. I work at a restaurant, with almost all female co-workers, and female managers. I've only had the job for three weeks, and still have another month before my "probation period" is over. I really need help because I'm afraid I might lose this job over some girl problems...
The TL;DR is: how to deal with women with too much authority, too much girl drama, and severely unprofessional women managers? I understand workplace politics, and I understand social dynamics, and female rationale, but how the fvck do I make this situation work? All I see is the absurd situations, and catch-22s. I don't cause problems, and I don't complain and therefore I am the reason for the girl's problems and source of their complaints... I know women are fueled by drama, but how can I adapt into that environment? Even though the job is easy, and I am good at it, the drama they are causing already has me on thin ice.
I got written up for something a girl coworker who doesn't like me told the manager I did. The problem is that she said something so distorted and untrue, and also so minor, and it lead to me being written up.
I told my manager what actually happened, in one ear out the other, "just sign the paper and clock out."
It seriously blows my ****ing mind that is how females do business. A girl gets offended, storms to the manager, and I get written up. "If you have a problem with another employee, just let me know and I'll talk to them" Obviously when i tell you (which i won't, because i can handle my own problems), then you go tell the girl "someone" said something about her, it only makes the hatred she feels towards me stronger.
Plus I was under the impression that the simple act of complaining over trivial **** is frowned upon, due to the fact that we are adults....
Everyone is on my back, telling me things I already know, and am already confident in doing - it's an easy fvcking job. Anytime there is anything slightly wrong, anywhere, I have to hear about it, and then I have to get told why it's wrong, and blah blah blah. I want to scream out "YOU THINK I DON'T KNOW THAT?!" but all I can do is just listen, over and over, and over again. "Just so you know, you need to wash your hands after touching money. When the health inspector comes it's very important because cross contamination blah blah blah. You're gonna want to use soap, and scrub with hot water."
Did you not see me just wash my hands? Have I not been washing my hands 1000 times a day since I was a child?
Then there is the one girl coworker, maybe you know someone like her, who despite my best efforts to be friendly, remains constantly pissed off at ME, who is the source of all her entire lives problems. She'll get offended from something I must have done from all the way across the room, and she'll do her estrogen fueled power walk to the managers office to complain about it.
My manager (28 year old woman) can't speak to me in a normal tone. She can't be friendly, she can't be a human being. She can't not trip over her power. She watches me like a cat watching a laser pen, and looks for opportunities to call me out. Yes, I'm new, yes, i'm still learning, but she's just so insulting and over the top in her reactions. It's vibes of a drill sergeant, mixed with female entitlement. She'll call me over to talk, when it's really busy, so I'm keeping an eye on what needs to be done while she's ranting, and when she gets done talking I go take care of it - except wait "WHERE ARE YOU GOING!" I was going to take care of some orders "I WASN'T DONE TALKING YET!" ok, I'll walk back over and stop working, even though you clearly were done talking "Don't walk away when I'm talking to you" Ok, understood. Then she gives me that look where her eyes pop out and, blown away by my sheer stupidity she says "WHY ARE YOU STILL JUST STANDING HERE WITH ALL THAT WORK THAT NEEDS TO BE DONE!"
No matter what I do, no matter what I try, I can not get these girls to chill out to me. I wouldn't give a **** except that they are in a position of power when it comes to my employment. Some of the girls are cool and we get along great. They don't complain about me, or anyone, and guess who they don't get along with? That same manager and girl from above.
I have two other managers. One of them is a guy and he's chill. He tells me what to do, and I do it and it's all good. The other girl manager is chill too, especially because she talks to me like a human. All of it goes to hell when the 28 year old power princess walks in.
I'm really worried and stressed because the "probation period" means they can fire me for any reason, without warning. After the probation period I should have more security because it's a union position. Obviously I don't want to work here my whole life, but due to the location (casino) it has a lot of opportunities to transfer into other fields I'm interested in after six months. It's a great place to work, outside of this stupid girl drama, which makes it even worse because I'm more than qualified and VALUE the job.
Too bad that doesn't mean anything.
The TL;DR is: how to deal with women with too much authority, too much girl drama, and severely unprofessional women managers? I understand workplace politics, and I understand social dynamics, and female rationale, but how the fvck do I make this situation work? All I see is the absurd situations, and catch-22s. I don't cause problems, and I don't complain and therefore I am the reason for the girl's problems and source of their complaints... I know women are fueled by drama, but how can I adapt into that environment? Even though the job is easy, and I am good at it, the drama they are causing already has me on thin ice.
I got written up for something a girl coworker who doesn't like me told the manager I did. The problem is that she said something so distorted and untrue, and also so minor, and it lead to me being written up.
I told my manager what actually happened, in one ear out the other, "just sign the paper and clock out."
It seriously blows my ****ing mind that is how females do business. A girl gets offended, storms to the manager, and I get written up. "If you have a problem with another employee, just let me know and I'll talk to them" Obviously when i tell you (which i won't, because i can handle my own problems), then you go tell the girl "someone" said something about her, it only makes the hatred she feels towards me stronger.
Plus I was under the impression that the simple act of complaining over trivial **** is frowned upon, due to the fact that we are adults....
Everyone is on my back, telling me things I already know, and am already confident in doing - it's an easy fvcking job. Anytime there is anything slightly wrong, anywhere, I have to hear about it, and then I have to get told why it's wrong, and blah blah blah. I want to scream out "YOU THINK I DON'T KNOW THAT?!" but all I can do is just listen, over and over, and over again. "Just so you know, you need to wash your hands after touching money. When the health inspector comes it's very important because cross contamination blah blah blah. You're gonna want to use soap, and scrub with hot water."
Did you not see me just wash my hands? Have I not been washing my hands 1000 times a day since I was a child?
Then there is the one girl coworker, maybe you know someone like her, who despite my best efforts to be friendly, remains constantly pissed off at ME, who is the source of all her entire lives problems. She'll get offended from something I must have done from all the way across the room, and she'll do her estrogen fueled power walk to the managers office to complain about it.
My manager (28 year old woman) can't speak to me in a normal tone. She can't be friendly, she can't be a human being. She can't not trip over her power. She watches me like a cat watching a laser pen, and looks for opportunities to call me out. Yes, I'm new, yes, i'm still learning, but she's just so insulting and over the top in her reactions. It's vibes of a drill sergeant, mixed with female entitlement. She'll call me over to talk, when it's really busy, so I'm keeping an eye on what needs to be done while she's ranting, and when she gets done talking I go take care of it - except wait "WHERE ARE YOU GOING!" I was going to take care of some orders "I WASN'T DONE TALKING YET!" ok, I'll walk back over and stop working, even though you clearly were done talking "Don't walk away when I'm talking to you" Ok, understood. Then she gives me that look where her eyes pop out and, blown away by my sheer stupidity she says "WHY ARE YOU STILL JUST STANDING HERE WITH ALL THAT WORK THAT NEEDS TO BE DONE!"
No matter what I do, no matter what I try, I can not get these girls to chill out to me. I wouldn't give a **** except that they are in a position of power when it comes to my employment. Some of the girls are cool and we get along great. They don't complain about me, or anyone, and guess who they don't get along with? That same manager and girl from above.
I have two other managers. One of them is a guy and he's chill. He tells me what to do, and I do it and it's all good. The other girl manager is chill too, especially because she talks to me like a human. All of it goes to hell when the 28 year old power princess walks in.
I'm really worried and stressed because the "probation period" means they can fire me for any reason, without warning. After the probation period I should have more security because it's a union position. Obviously I don't want to work here my whole life, but due to the location (casino) it has a lot of opportunities to transfer into other fields I'm interested in after six months. It's a great place to work, outside of this stupid girl drama, which makes it even worse because I'm more than qualified and VALUE the job.
Too bad that doesn't mean anything.
