"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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i need help asking this girl to be my gf

lil hooligan

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right.
i want to ask this girl at school to be my gf and i dont know what exactly what to say to her
please coment and thanks
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Don't ask her to "be your girlfriend." think of something the two of you could do together and suggest to her that she join you for that. When you are out show her that you are fun and can have a good time. If you get the right vibes, go in for a kiss.

Don't be the one to bring up "girlfriend" or "relationship." Just get things to progress and let her bring it up first. It's much better that way.
 

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i see where you are coming from but the thing is my school breaks up for summer holidays in 3 days and i was hoping to ask her out before we break up for them
 

VIVAlasVEGASBaby

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It's far better to just hang out with her a lot. Don't talk about having a relationship with her. Just have fun with her. Kiss her. Flirt with her. If she wants a relationship, she will bring it up. I assure you of that. Then, when she's the one that brings it up, you KNOW she has extremely high interest in you. There's nothing wrong with casual dating.

Plus if you are worried about some other guy "stealing" her away from you, i would encourage you to try to not worry about that. Think of it this way, the word "relationship" is really nothing more than a name. You can have a de facto relationship with her just by hanging out with her a bunch and her having high interest in you. If she has high interest in you, she probably won't go for other guys. And if she does, who cares! Because you know you are the more attractive man and that she's smart enough to choose you over all the other guys pursuing her.

Don't ask her. If you have discipline and patience she'll ask you.
 

VIVAlasVEGASBaby

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lil hooligan said:
i see where you are coming from but the thing is my school breaks up for summer holidays in 3 days and i was hoping to ask her out before we break up for them
Ask her on a date.

Don't ask her to be your girlfriend.

Do you have her phone number?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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i dont have her phone number but i could deffo get it
 

VIVAlasVEGASBaby

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Well get it, call her a few days later and set up a date! Be casual. Just have fun and try to get to know her. Don't go in with any expectations.

Oh and check out the high school bible, it's stickied at the top of the forum.
 

lil hooligan

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sure il get it and do you mean like to the cinema or something
 

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ah yes some good stuff here, what do you think about asking her where she would like to go
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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lil hooligan said:
ah yes some good stuff here, what do you think about asking her where she would like to go
Don't ask her where she would like to go. Women tend to be very indecisive creatures, so take charge yourself and tell her what you two plan on doing. It shows confidence. If she has some other idea or doesn't like what you suggest, she'll let you know. Though it's likely she will be fine with whatever you decide.

Go do something that YOU know YOU will have fun doing. If you're having fun, she'll have fun too.
 

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i dont want to sound like a retard but what the fcuk is kino and i will probs ask her to the cinema
thanks
 

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lil hooligan said:
i dont want to sound like a retard but what the fcuk is kino and i will probs ask her to the cinema
thanks
Kino is like touching her. Powerful Sh*t man.
If the "hang out" (aka. date) goes good,then near the end, hold her hand and kiss her softly on the lips.

Have you hung out with her before tho?
For High School, you usually hang with the girl lots first, show her your fun side and she will become attracted to you easily.
Also, get her friends approval too, that will help you TONS.

Good luck bro :cool:
 

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Please please please please read the DJ Bible. You will thank us later.

Just get her number and call her up to do something and then tell us how it goes. DO IT!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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