I need an objective opinion

[thedarkpassenger]

I recently got out of a 5 year relationship. I loved her very much, but the last 2 years or so, she got incredibly annoyed by me, frustrated, and was basically taking out her anger out on me. I had some financial troubles and while sorting them out, she saw me as a failure. She nagged me constantly and I fell out of love with her over the last 2 years. We tried to work it out, but we just couldn't do it.

I broke up with her 2 weeks ago because I was having anxiety attacks, my career was suffering, I had zero peace of mind, and I was constantly waiting for her to yell and nag at me about what I was doing wrong. She was extremely harsh and judgemental. I haven't had anxiety attacks for over 8 years, but recently, she brought them back. At one point, I was even considering suicide. I would NEVER do this, but just the fact that it entered my mind, and that she could make me THAT DEPRESSED, just made me realize how much I needed to get away from her.

Of course I had my problems too. After years of this fighting, I had energy or drive to fight with her anymore. My attraction was gone, and I had no desire to stay with her. We broke up amicably, letting her know I didn't feel the same about her, and vice versa.

I own multiple businesses, and to make matters worse, I opened a fourth business WITH her as my partner. I'm considering leaving this business behind because I just can't stand to be around her. That's how bad it's gotten.

I want to start a relationship with this new woman, and my ex is making it really difficult. What really kills me is I really had a close relationship with her sister, her parents and her friends. I don't want it to end like this, but she's going to go bad-mouthing me to everyone I care about.

I really do care about this new girl I met. What should I do? Should I leave this new business behind and let me ex have it? I feel like she's trying to guilt me and make me feel like I'm abandoning her.....she wants to keep me around any way possible. She claims I led her on, and that I'm abandoning her family, the business, her life, and that I'm just a horrible careless person.

The truth is, it's killing me inside, but I can't be with her and have a happy life.

What should I do?

 

[Ridingthelightning]

Do what makes you happy and satisfied. You can tell your ex everything that you just told us. Be very objective about it, because you should.

 

[horaholic]

see if she'll buy out your half. How much is your half worth?

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Yeah, see if she'll buy out your half, or if you can buy her out. If not, a 4th business is just that. You cut your loses and do what is best for you, your sanity and your future. At least you are not married, or you'd have to loose it all. Don't worry about what anybody says about you. They were her friends/family before you were in the picture, and they'll continue to be.

You better do something quick, this other girl you claim to care about might not, and I would't blame her, wait forever until you decide to cut off the cancer.