i need all your help

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

matt428carr

Don Juan

Mar 22, 2007

hi guys and thanks for looking.me and my girlfriend of 2 plus years broke up yesterday and im having a hard time.she was a ***** and pretty much robbed me of all my manhood and confidence.i finally got the nut to bail,but its really hard....all this stuff running through my head...her with other guys...not being able to find someone else...i dont really know how to deal.i want to go out and just get my mind off her but im feeling pretty insecure at this point.maybe you all could give me some tips and pointers to get myself back.i feel like such a ***** right now.
thanks
matt

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.