I need Advice...Girl Dumped Me And...

[PositiveAttitude]

I was in really short relationship (2week) and girl break up with 3 days ago with me because she told me she likes other guy, so I say Myself okey...i will find better girl that her...

She was playing many games in this so called "relationship".... that really eat me inside.... so in one way i`am glad its over...

And last 3 days she is sending me on Msn....

Girl: "I break up with you because i didnt want hurt you or cheat you.. you are so great person..."

next day...

Girl: " I am stupid because i break up with you... thats it! :/"
Girl: "Im lying myself inside to feel better everyday...:/"

I ignore most of them..i answer but not on interested way...

And now i wake up...4 in morning i dreamed her...I wake up in tears?
Damn whats wrong me...its 14 days long relationship not 3 years...why there are tears...
Something deeper is here...

How did i get so emotional attached to her like this in just 2 weeks...?
What advice would you give me about situation..?
What she is trying...to get back with me or?

Is this fear being alone...?


Thank you people...I want to find out what is wrong with inner me...emotions...(yes i`am very emotional person...)

Sorry for grammar! ; )

I`am 18..in 5 days 19 ; )

 

[CarlitosWay]

Let me guess first time you have ever gotten this close with a chic?

You have to knuckle up and take it for what it is. She was very interested in you at one point, now she isn't. Who knows why!!! Women are driven by their emotions, men can't do the same, it leads them to failure/heartbreak.

Now she dares to say things like that to you?!? Who the hell does she think she's kidding. Tell her you don't need her sob story, you remained like a pillar of ivory, unshakable.

Please don't tell her you cried over all this. Now imagine if you did what she did to you? No way in hell would she probably take you back. MOVE ON.

You can get back together, yet damn you have to be in control of the relationship, I imagine though she'll pull the same **** again in another month or two.

 

[iliketennis]

talk to other girls

be with friends

 

[PositiveAttitude]

Actually this is my third relationship (-:
First lasted 1 year... and other two 1-2 weeks

Yea, she was very very interested. 2 weeks ago i got her at concert and other 3 guys were trying to get her same evening and they failed...
I ignored her most of time like i wasnt interested and that attracted her...

And last saturday told me...

"You know when i get things that i can`t have...its not interesting anymore...i want something else..i`am insatiable..." Then began to use all my words and "game" on me... Ignoring, Making me Jeaolus etc...

Imagine last weekend when she called me to get to other town on beer fest (25km) and i go there, and she go home after one hour leave me alone all night to wait bus in town that i was first time...damn! And she was jerking around telling me "Look that guy more beautiful than you" HOW DID I ALLOWED THIS

But it was unique experience being alone in other town in dark park.. because i think loneliness is best way to discover more about your self...and i discovered some deep stuff..


I hide emotions when talking with her...i mean, she is sending all "sad smileys" and posting sad texts.... I`am acting like nothing happened and happy...
I don`t know how she dares to tell that.

The better you are to girl..the worst she is to you...really :cuss:

Yesterday i ignored all day conversation with her...
What are Your opinions on all this...?

Problem is...i attract girls based on my look, rock/metal girls primary, but after they met me they lose interest fast.. Why i can`t act with new people like i act with someone who I know 15 years?

How to remove this "social mask" or..whatever it is (afraid what people would think?).. And probably I lack confidence when i didn`t have balls to spin her around and throw her on "knees"..to respect me...
What would you recommend me to improve on my inner self?

Tonight i`l probably go out with friends...it will be nice ; )
Thank you guys. You`re all great! ; )

 

[kingsam]

a Relationship that lasts 1-2 weeks IS NOT a relationship

you are living with a Scarcity mindset!

 

[Cinamon]

Its only been two weeks and she is treating you like that now. Why would you want to be with someone who doesnt respect you or your relationship. This is one of many experiences you will learn from. No doubt you will take her back, get hurt in the future and learn not to make this mistake again.... hopefully.

 

[Megaman XIV]

Go spin more plates and forget about this girl. Problem solved.

 

[slaog]

Yesterday i ignored all day conversation with her...
What are Your opinions on all this...?

Problem is...i attract girls based on my look, rock/metal girls primary, but after they met me they lose interest fast.. Why i can`t act with new people like i act with someone who I know 15 years?

Because deep down you think you're not worthy. Deep down you believe you don't deserve to have a great woman. You need to change those negative beliefs and then there'll be no more problems and you'll act the same to everybody.

How to remove this "social mask" or..whatever it is (afraid what people would think?).. And probably I lack confidence when i didn`t have balls to spin her around and throw her on "knees"..to respect me...
What would you recommend me to improve on my inner self?

At least you know that you have a "social mask" that needs removing. The social mask is basically seeing the world through AFC glasses. To remove them you have to gain an understanding about what women are attracted to. Then you can apply what you have learned.


Ask yourself questions. Questions like, why am I afraid of women etc. You'll soon see that its irrational behaviour which have been programmed into the mind of "men" of today.


These days guys turn into little schoolboys when they see a beautiful woman. They're practically drooling over the women. The thing is that they don't notice how AFC they are behaving BUT you can be sure that women notice it. Many men on here also notice it clearly because we've learned how to behave. It all goes back to understanding what women are attracted to.


One important thing to remember is to judge women by their actions and ignore what they say. So although this girl is saying nice things to you her actions were alot different. She liked the look of you at first but saw that you were not what she expected ie a man. Women are attracted to men who take the lead in a relationship, who are the boss and who take charge. She probably sh!t tested you (see the link in my signature below 'sh!t test everyone fails') and you failed. Thats how women find out what guys are AFC's and what are real men.

 

[PositiveAttitude]

Here I Am! : )

Could you explain me Scarcity mindset? You are right.. (-:

Cinamon I agree... Tonight i was out with friends...and i thought inside: " How many beautiful girls are watching me and I whine because that one.." and i laugh.

Yep Megaman XIV, best cure is to go out... ; )

Slaog

How I can change negative core beliefs to positive..? I`am really trying last 8 months to think positive...but still there are negative core beliefs inside that are preventing me many things in life.

There are many great stuff on this wonderful site but..where to start? I don`t want material to overload me.

When i asked myself that questions, its like..."shame, social shame etc.." and i have really quiet voice when talking to new people?

I`l remember that, i`l put it on desktop..and to remind me everyday!
As reading sh!t test thread, i can see that i failed. Its like i`am reading my past weekend...

I though last weekend if i tell her some words like "i miss you..etc" that will improve relationship but it failed. Learned a lesson.. ; )

Thank you Guys! (-:

 

[MyTeamSupreme]

2 weeks isnt a relationship, son

 

[PositiveAttitude]

I Agree, Supreme... Good thing is that i learned a lesson from this....at least i think i am..

 

[slaog]

Slaog

How I can change negative core beliefs to positive..? I`am really trying last 8 months to think positive...but still there are negative core beliefs inside that are preventing me many things in life.

There are many great stuff on this wonderful site but..where to start? I don`t want material to overload me.

When i asked myself that questions, its like..."shame, social shame etc.." and i have really quiet voice when talking to new people?

I`l remember that, i`l put it on desktop..and to remind me everyday!
As reading sh!t test thread, i can see that i failed. Its like i`am reading my past weekend...

I though last weekend if i tell her some words like "i miss you..etc" that will improve relationship but it failed. Learned a lesson.. ; )

Thank you Guys! (-:

First you need to know where you're going. What do you want from all of this. Its important to make it clear in your mind and that cuts out all the confusion. Ask yourself what you want from life and make goals.


My advise would be to concentrate on improving yourself. It'll happen slowly but it will happen. Bit by bit you'll notice positive changes. Read a book on good body language for starters. Build up your confidence by understand that you can attract women by having an attractive personality.


As for attraction itself, it mainly comes down to value. How much do you value yourself. If you value yourself highly you'll act like a high value man and women are attracted to high value men. Thats why I recommend working on body language. Its easy to fix and most communication is done through body language so it can raise your value quickly.


Also, as you become more self confident you'll find that you have a sort of shield that blocks negativity from other people. At the end of the day its not about other people its about you and you have full control.