"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I need a quick response from an American.

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OK so I got a date with this American girl, pretty hot, like 8.5-9, in about an hour, at this cool little restaurant. So far I've only been with foreign students since I've been here, and they have always offered to split the bill at the end.

When the waitress comes with the bill, do you think she's gonna expect me to get both meals? I mean, I'm a student so not very rich, and would rather split it. Any experience with this sorta thing?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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L777 said:
OK so I got a date with this American girl, pretty hot, like 8.5-9, in about an hour, at this cool little restaurant. So far I've only been with foreign students since I've been here, and they have always offered to split the bill at the end.

When the waitress comes with the bill, do you think she's gonna expect me to get both meals? I mean, I'm a student so not very rich, and would rather split it. Any experience with this sorta thing?
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Yes, she will probably just assume you're together, or will leave the bill on the table, so you or her can decide. That is, unless you tell her (or him) that you want seperate bills.

You did the asking, though, right? Then you might consider paying. or go for coffee next time.

Good luck.
 
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Some of what I'm gonna say are things I was raised by, and what I've learned all meshed together for one final product depending on the scenario.

I was raised that the man always pays for the meal (raised by my mom, so no cracks on that). With that said, sometimes it has left me feeling used. So I opt for something cheap the first time around, which allows me to still be the gentleman that my mom wants me to be, without feeling used as much since coffee is only a couple bucks.

Next, if I do go out to a dinner, I don't say a word to the waiter about wanting the check or splitting the check. They will usually put it in the middle. The gentleman part of me will usually grab for it eitherway. This is when the lady I'm with will usually say:
1. Let me pay for that (definate keeper)
2. Let's split it/How much was my meal/Here's some money for my food (history has told me that these girls only see me as a friend, and I probably shouldn't count on going out with her again, but since she's paying for her meal, I don't feel used)
3. *she sits there quietly until you pay, and after you do* Thank you (this could go eitherway and it's hard to tell. girls have told me that some girls enjoy getting free things from guys. the others have an interest in you and see you as a provider.) I believe that how things go on the date should help you decide which is which. If you believe the first, then I would suggest you figure out a way for her to do something that benefits you.
 
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