I need a new crew...

[Colin O'Brien]

The group I hang out with ****ing sucks. They can be funny at times but in the end, except for a couple of them who I actually *do* like, they're downers and give me no respect. Yet, I hang out with them cause there's nothing else for me to do and I have fun about once every 10 nights.

Well after a ****ty night last night I've resolved to ditch these *******s and hang out with a new crowd. I've got some friends in the new group I'm thinking of.. we don't know each other super well but they're really chill with me and in general. Pretty much everyone in that group is gone for spring break except for one of the guys, who said he's be down to hang out with me. So how do I go about truly breaking into this new group without seeming desperate?

 

[Groovy]

About the group you have...

Respect yourself, and people will respect you too.

Basicly, you get what you give. If you're the fun, caring and light-hearted guy in the group, people won't really want to bring you down. But you don't have to care about them... care about yourself!

Give the vibe that you're there and you're okay with yourself, and they are just tools so you can have fun! And socialize with them.

But don't ditch them.

Be the cool guy in the group... For yourself!

It will give you social proof. It will make you like yourself even more!

Have fun by yourself! Poke people, tickle them, push them and then pull! They will join the fun, too.

If they give you disrespect, walk away. They don't deserve you. Or, deal with it. But don't get angry! It's all cool. You know that they are weak... Because weak people have to bring others down to make themselves feel good.

So you're kind of winning... You only have to keep cool, and you command everyone.

If someone gives you ****, you can respond to them playfully... Powerfull stuff! Think about the advantages.

"Go get me that cup of water!" - He says, in a agressive authority.
"Are your legs broken, or are you just a lazy fatass?" You reply with your best mother****ing grin.

So that's a fair mission: Adapt yourself in the worse group ever... Yes, it's an experience! You can learn from it.

So, join the other group if you can, but don't be concerned. You don't need a group... Be the cool guy, the cool groups groups will want you!

Break in this new group... Take small steps. Don't cling all the time! If both groups are in a party, walk around. Hi5 people when you see them. Don't try to spend all of the time in there. It's preety easy, lol. I can't explain it.


I was in a situation like this, too. I only got disrespect... A copule of months have passed, I've changed myself, and their atitude towards me is begining to change too.

I only wrote this as a guide for myself... It worked for me and it works. Good luck man. Consider it as a fun experience because it has the potential to be one. If you think of it as the worse group ever, you don't get anything from that. So change that negative thoughts first!

Thanks for reading.

 

[KontrollerX]

Disagreed with groovy.

Sometimes when you change for the better your supposed friends turn on you and become crabs trying to pull you down and halt your progress.

The reasons can be many from their egos being threatened, to fearing you will become more popular than they are and so they will be supplanted from being the group's leader, etc.

So definitely ditch these garbage false friends and break into the new group for a fresh start.

It takes a mature man to make a mature decision and leave the rubbish behind no longer clinging to it for a new start so have no doubt you are making the right decision.

As for not appearing desperate breaking into the new group its really simple.

Just don't act desperate, act chill, use this opportunity to hang out with the one guy from the group that is available for you to hang out with now, form a bond with him and go from there.

It will make it easier to get well known and liked by the rest of the group if you use this opportunity now to start with him.

Good luck brother.

 

[Groovy]

I hate to admit that some people are just deeply rotten...

But I have to say that it's a good point.

Just make sure you didn't misjudged them on something and then try to to get back to that group again, because afterall they aren't that bad.

Gl again!

 

[faiNt`]

Just be funny, but don't look like you try too hard.

you: "How was the ____ test?"
them: "It was so hard."
you: "That's what she said."

Not the best example but I think you know what I mean, just don't look like you're trying xD

 

[BMX]

you: "You all wanna go to ___ on Saturday w/me?"
them: "maybe/OK/cool/we'll see"
you: "Well if you decide to go w/me that's cool, if not that's cool too."

That may work, and it definately works on chicks, like a scene in Office Space. Shows you're not trying hard to seek approval.