I'm really pissed off with myself. I was in a night club tonight and saw a girl who I really liked. I remembered all I had learnt on sosuave and kept telling myself the only way I'll have a chance with her was if I went up and talked to her. "I'll go over in a minute, after this drink", I say to myself. "Oh, she's still there, might as well have another drink and speak to her later, after all, the club closes in another two hours", etc. etc. It was like a little AFC voice in my head took over and made me afriad to do anything.
I look around and see about twenty blokes around the dance floor with their drinks in hand waiting for some someone to approach them. "AFCs", I says to myself, but realise that I'm also standing next to them waiting for someone to magically approach me.
She goes to the bar. I follow behind her. I'm standing right behind her witing to be served and don't say anything to her. My mind just froze. It makes me feel like an AFC. Like all those other AFCs that are also at the bar.
She goes back onto teh dance floor. I sip my drink next to her while she dances with another guy. He beats me to her and manages to pull her. OBVIOUSLY. I knew it was going to happen. It was so predictable, but I couldn't help myself.
I'm so annoyed with myself. Every time I see a girl I like I don't seem to have the courage to approace her RIGHT THERE AND THEN. I always leave it till later. And later still. Until it's too late.
I don't want to be like all the other guys. I dont want to have to get drunk before plucking up the courage to talk to a girl, only to realise that by the time I do, another guy has beaten me it. I want to be able to approach girls there and then, without thinking of the consequences, and ignoring that bloody AFC voice in my head telling me to be a wuss.
Trust me, I was there tonight thinking about the advice I'd read on sosuave about how to 'be the great catch' and approach women like it's that last day i'd live, but the truth is I just bottle it and dont have the courage.
I need to be able to approace her STRAIGHT AWAY, without thinking and ignoring the AFC voice in my head telling me how bad it might be if she rejects me. I need something to think to myself whenever this situation happens again to overcome this stupid AFC voice that's killing me. I need a reason to not wait like all the other AFCs, and apporach women like its the last day of my life and there's nothing to lose.
I want your advice of ways to overcome Mr. AFC and have the confidence to approach women without having to think of every consequence that might happen.
Then next time I see a girl that I like, I need something to think to myslef to make me approach her straight away and not care about rejection. I'm not going to read this thread until the next time I'm going to a club, so your replies will be fresh in my mind. I'm not asking for wonders guys, but just a mindset I should adopt to ignore the shouting Mr. AFC and let Mr. DJ take control.
I'm a sociable perrson. I have charm. I just need a mindset to switch into when im in a club or around women to be able to forget the consequences of what MIGHt happen and as soon as I see a girl I like, approach them STRAIGHT AWAY.
I look around and see about twenty blokes around the dance floor with their drinks in hand waiting for some someone to approach them. "AFCs", I says to myself, but realise that I'm also standing next to them waiting for someone to magically approach me.
She goes to the bar. I follow behind her. I'm standing right behind her witing to be served and don't say anything to her. My mind just froze. It makes me feel like an AFC. Like all those other AFCs that are also at the bar.
She goes back onto teh dance floor. I sip my drink next to her while she dances with another guy. He beats me to her and manages to pull her. OBVIOUSLY. I knew it was going to happen. It was so predictable, but I couldn't help myself.
I'm so annoyed with myself. Every time I see a girl I like I don't seem to have the courage to approace her RIGHT THERE AND THEN. I always leave it till later. And later still. Until it's too late.
I don't want to be like all the other guys. I dont want to have to get drunk before plucking up the courage to talk to a girl, only to realise that by the time I do, another guy has beaten me it. I want to be able to approach girls there and then, without thinking of the consequences, and ignoring that bloody AFC voice in my head telling me to be a wuss.
Trust me, I was there tonight thinking about the advice I'd read on sosuave about how to 'be the great catch' and approach women like it's that last day i'd live, but the truth is I just bottle it and dont have the courage.
I need to be able to approace her STRAIGHT AWAY, without thinking and ignoring the AFC voice in my head telling me how bad it might be if she rejects me. I need something to think to myself whenever this situation happens again to overcome this stupid AFC voice that's killing me. I need a reason to not wait like all the other AFCs, and apporach women like its the last day of my life and there's nothing to lose.
I want your advice of ways to overcome Mr. AFC and have the confidence to approach women without having to think of every consequence that might happen.
Then next time I see a girl that I like, I need something to think to myslef to make me approach her straight away and not care about rejection. I'm not going to read this thread until the next time I'm going to a club, so your replies will be fresh in my mind. I'm not asking for wonders guys, but just a mindset I should adopt to ignore the shouting Mr. AFC and let Mr. DJ take control.
I'm a sociable perrson. I have charm. I just need a mindset to switch into when im in a club or around women to be able to forget the consequences of what MIGHt happen and as soon as I see a girl I like, approach them STRAIGHT AWAY.