"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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thunderleg

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i have a problem thats making want to blow it of my head with a bullet.about i was going out with this girl for like a moth and half we didnt do it:( but we had great chemestry.about a week ago she told me that she still had fellings for her ex who she had no seen in a year and saw him when she went to visit the guys sister, they saw each other said hi and thats it(according to her.)that **** is the next day she came to me and said that she was gonna be honest and that she didnt want to be with be while having felling for another because its wrong.the point is that i was alright with me and i did not care much so we stood friends we talk to each other and when i see her i feel nothing but the problem is i cant stop thinking about her my friend is pissed at me couse i think too much about her.my question is why the fu** do i think about her so much if dont care about us breaking up and how can i stop.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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arutha

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Infatuation.. Its a real b***h, happens to everyone.

The sad truth is the only way around it is to have multiple girls going at once so you don't get fixed on one of them and couldn't care less if they dump you. If you don't like being like that, then do what I do. Only seriously have one going at a time but have several others that you interact with a bit and know for sure that they would accept if you asked them out. I got a LJBF recently, same poblem as you took too long to try anything then it was too late, but I was like whatever, your loss. I have plenty of others in line waiting.

If you know you have options, you tend not to care if one dumps you. Or at least not care as much and get into the thinking of them the whole time frame.
 
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