"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I need a bit of advice with an interested girl

defiancy

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I haven't been out DJing too much, but for a while I have been doing own thing...which is good, but it may have served as an excuse for me not to do approaches. I just need couple of tips to get my mind back on track. Advice on this situation will be appreciated.


Last Saturday after I came back hanging out with a girl I'm friends with, I decided that we should both get some frozen yogurt at a shop near my school. There's a HB9 half indian/half carribean girl I sometimes see at school that works there. I came in couple times before and she's a nice friendly person, always saying Hi Chris whenever I walk in. As I paid for my yogurt, I lightly chatted with HB9, accidentally dropped some coins she gave me, paid, and then left the shop. The minute we left, my friend told me she was pretty hot and that she seemed nervous around me. I said "yea she's a nice girl", but my friend said HB9 bit her lips and looked down as I picked up my coins. It was a little hard to believe, but I'm planning to close it. Not sure why she's interested except for the fact I was never lured in by her looks...no clue why, but the attraction switch just never came on. I kind of lost the DJing I have due to my busy schedule and excuses to not approach. I have the natural aspects of gaming (confidence, eye contact, etc), but I'm not good with the approaching.

I don't see this girl often at school, but it'll be a good idea in my opinion to game her when she's alone on her shift so she's not that pressured.

I'm not very talkative...so topic suggestions when I lightly chat with her again?

Someone overall remind me how to escalate things without being too direct
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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defiancy

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I just need a bit of insight.
 

defiancy

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ill bump this one last time before I consider this dead. Anyone have any thoughts?
 

Microphone Fiend

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1. You need to understand that women like you, thats your first problem
2. Read up on the DJ HS bible a bit man.
3. Meet more girls. You are calm and smart enough to treat the HB9 like a regular chick, but at the same time, you are looking for an indirect approach so that you don't get 'caught' trying to get with her in case she does not reciprocate. You are too afraid of losing her to try and actually catch her
 

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Microphone Fiend said:
1. You need to understand that women like you, thats your first problem
2. Read up on the DJ HS bible a bit man.
3. Meet more girls. You are calm and smart enough to treat the HB9 like a regular chick, but at the same time, you are looking for an indirect approach so that you don't get 'caught' trying to get with her in case she does not reciprocate. You are too afraid of losing her to try and actually catch her
If she is an HB9, your only choice is to date other women in front of her, and only then will you get her feminine competetive spirit going.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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