jophil28
Master Don Juan
****Stitches from a wound - precisely .Knight's Cross said:Jophil, thanks.
Its as if she understands loss, but not remorse,or regret. Lack of conscience. Even yesterday her words didn't seem to quite match.
**** They understand loss because it hurts THEM, just like children understand loss from day one .
However embracing and experiencing regret and remorse is a far more evolved concept. I bet that she is totally inconsistent in her empathic responses. SHe will perhaps express some apparent sadness for someone who is suffering BUT then treat you as if you are a mere object to be discarded when it suited her.
You see KC, she is incapable of reciprocity. It is all about her wants and needs.. You are her SUPPLY only. This may be what you refer to as a lack of conscience.
BTW have you researced Borderline Personality Disorder ?
She has asked what would make me happy. I tell her, and then she doesn't do it.
**** SHe does not do it because these women are incapble of giving .
She apologizes for me feeling left out, then goes right on leaving me out.
*** EXACTLY. These women are difficult to fathom I experienced the same behavior from a woman last year , SHe excluded me mostly from her life until I objected and then she reluctantly intoduced me to her relatives and friends in a piecemeal way. It was bewildering - Most women are eager to bring you into their life sphere .
I constantly felt diminished and devalued. I walked out on her four times and after sme days or a couple weeks she would call me on a pretext. She would always come back all sweet and sexy . As soon as the dust settled and the first makeup sex was over she reverted to the mindgames . And so the carousel turned around and around.
Ten months of this madness was enough for me - I was a mess.
You're and Rollo are right, the effort repairing a relationship is usually wasted. Far better is it to start off with someone new. We aren't married, we don't live together, we don't have children. I shouldn't have answered the phone yesterday. All it did was pull out stitches from a healing wound.
KC
Good hunting KC.
Jophil