I must be going threw a phase

[frivolousz21]

last night a friend of mine calls and says he is going up to a bar.

btw in IL now you cant smoke in bars I love it.

anyways I got there..and he was with 2 women he met.


both single hb 7.5 and 8.0

I ended up chatting up one of them and getting into a great convo...eventually I was sitting down....she was really waiting for me to make a move...I played it off as if I wasnt interested and to be honest I wasnt.

so I said I need a recliner...she pointed at the bottom bar on the stool.

then I said that **** is to low.

so the tapped her thigh.

I said that is to high...

she looked at me like WTF.

anyways...I left because I had to get up early today and she was pretty damm shocked I didnt pursue it..

I honestly didnt care or feel the need to get physical..she as hot...but I didnt want too...


what the hell is wrong with me..this is 2 times where I get the a thrill from being able to attract her and then not really wanting it.


It must be something lingering from whats just happened in my life.

 

[MacAvoy]

Friv,

Don't sweat it, theres nothing wrong with spending time with yourself. We are not dancing chickens at some circus side show who have to perform whenever beckoned. We are our own masters and pick and choose when we want to dance.

You've gone through a stressful period and are dealing with stuff that is much more important than a piece of azz, its only natural to be disinterested in something so trivial as pvssy when there are much larger fish to fry.

 

[penkitten]

of course you are going through a phase, you just had your world turned upside down, and it has not been settled yet.
until your divorce is final and you have your time with your son regularly, you are not even going to begin to scratch the surface on your own issues.
when you finally get it all taken care of and feel that it has been corrected, you will feel more at ease at going out and meeting people, and working on your self esteem, and heck ,... just figuring out whom you are these days.

you will never be the same person as you were a year ago.
however, don't loose the faith in yourself, because you are going to grow, and evolve into an even better man that you were before.
this is a good thing actually.


until then, take your time. go through your "me" phase. do what makes you happy or makes you recognize how to make yourself happy. you do not have to be interested in anything else yet.

be strong and be patient.

 

[frivolousz21]

I have noticed I have issues.

I hate saying that...as a man I feel as if I shouldnt have issues.

but Ive become a pretty bitter Jerk of late and I hate it.

I feel as if I am in pieces..part of me is happy and running smooth..some parts are sad some parts are hateful and bitter.

before I met the mother of my child I was complete and running on all cylinders...and having a ton of fun in life.

right now...I cant manage to be nice without trying hard.
its very frustrating

 

[MacAvoy]

Just like a car, you can't expect it to be in tip top shape all the time. The car needs to go in for regular maintenance. Sometimes life deals you a raw deal, and you've got to go into the shop for a major overhaul. Its just part of the game.

What determines your success is how you cope with adversity. You seem to be doing pretty good, you've got a plan for your son, and that should be your priority right now.

I'd say it might even be 6 months before your even interested in getting into the dating scene again. There is nothing saying that we constantly have to be in a relationship or chasing a skirt.