"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I move my body to much...

DJ McBuster

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My friends and I always talk about the weak points and strong points of our game. But the other day one of them told me I was hurtin' my play by pacing around so much and it really struck a cord. You see I am an active person and I always like to have my body in motion when I doing something. But, you see that goes against the norm and some girls proably hold it against me. So how can I focus on being more relaxed when I do things, instead of pacing around or keeping my body in constant motion?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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check_mate_kid_uk

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Just make a consious effort to not move around too much. you will get used to it.
 

Monster

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Maybe you need some methylphenidate or some other amphetamine if this is a constant thing in your life.
 

Marlimus

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NO. Do not attempt to change anything about yourself with drugs that you can otherwise on your own. You do not need meth, just a little self-awareness, and practice.
 

Cruise

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Right. Get more aware in your world and move to it's 'rhythm', if that makes sense.

For instance, feel the 'rhythm' you get from walking in a library... calm, slow, relaxed... learn to bathe in that environment.

Of course, if you're in a club, be able to adapt to THAT environment.

When people say that you've moving too much, what they're really saying is... THEY CAN'T RELATE TO YOU... and that's what's making people uncomfortable. You have to be flexible in your environments.

To women, as we might know, subconsciously, they relate a LOT of things to how you perform in the bedroom. Well, I'm absolutely positive that you're attracting some chicks because you stay active with your movements... at least what that's saying is you're not a lazy person in the sack. (GREAT for you, btw). BUT... what other side are you showing? In other words, can you move with her when she just wants the slooooooow, sensual, relaxing lovemaking rhythm? IMO, if you can't show this side in an environment that calls for it, you're basically sending out the message that you don't and won't know how to operate on this level.

So, just like Espi mentioned, PRACTICE LISTENING. Listen to the people, listen to the environment, listen to the rhythm of the MOMENT. Like what Bob Marley said about music, "If you feel, then you know it."

feel it.!.!.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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