"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I move my body to much...

DJ McBuster

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My friends and I always talk about the weak points and strong points of our game. But the other day one of them told me I was hurtin' my play by pacing around so much and it really struck a cord. You see I am an active person and I always like to have my body in motion when I doing something. But, you see that goes against the norm and some girls proably hold it against me. So how can I focus on being more relaxed when I do things, instead of pacing around or keeping my body in constant motion?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Just make a consious effort to not move around too much. you will get used to it.
 

Monster

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Maybe you need some methylphenidate or some other amphetamine if this is a constant thing in your life.
 

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NO. Do not attempt to change anything about yourself with drugs that you can otherwise on your own. You do not need meth, just a little self-awareness, and practice.
 

Cruise

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Right. Get more aware in your world and move to it's 'rhythm', if that makes sense.

For instance, feel the 'rhythm' you get from walking in a library... calm, slow, relaxed... learn to bathe in that environment.

Of course, if you're in a club, be able to adapt to THAT environment.

When people say that you've moving too much, what they're really saying is... THEY CAN'T RELATE TO YOU... and that's what's making people uncomfortable. You have to be flexible in your environments.

To women, as we might know, subconsciously, they relate a LOT of things to how you perform in the bedroom. Well, I'm absolutely positive that you're attracting some chicks because you stay active with your movements... at least what that's saying is you're not a lazy person in the sack. (GREAT for you, btw). BUT... what other side are you showing? In other words, can you move with her when she just wants the slooooooow, sensual, relaxing lovemaking rhythm? IMO, if you can't show this side in an environment that calls for it, you're basically sending out the message that you don't and won't know how to operate on this level.

So, just like Espi mentioned, PRACTICE LISTENING. Listen to the people, listen to the environment, listen to the rhythm of the MOMENT. Like what Bob Marley said about music, "If you feel, then you know it."

feel it.!.!.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

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