I missed out on this stuff in my adolescence and college years, haunts me like crazy.

[drakeisfire]

I am in my 20s and out of college, the one thing that haunts me like crazy to the point it depresses me is the fact that I missed out on all of this during high school and college. Home schooled for high school and just flat out didn't get it right in college.

No parties with hot girls.

No going out with cool friends and enjoying fun times with hot girls.

No making cool friends and have a lot of fun people around my age in my life.

I missed out on all of that in college and it haunts me. I cannot go back at all because it just wouldn't feel the same compared to being 18 and moving out of your parents' house for the first time, meeting lots of people in the same situation as you.

I am just lost and have nothing to look forward to in life.

Sure I might make money and get an occasional gold digger but so what, it just isn't that same fulfilling social feeling.

Because nothing after college really compares.....

 

[PeasantPlayer]

its overrated, and your still young go do your thing now

 

[skinnyguy]

You also missed out on girlfriend drama, STDs, alcohol poisoning, and getting arrested.

Still feel bad?

 

[Murk]

I missed out too, but I’m too busy in the present to give a fvck about what could have been 10 years ago.

 

[TheProspect]

I am just lost and have nothing to look forward to in life.

Which is why you're looking backwards with regret.

Humans need goals to strive for, and they need to feel like they are making progress towards those goals. It almost is like a psychological need.

Set goals for yourself, in all aspects of your life. Where do you want to be in 3 months from now? 1 year? 5 years, 10 years, etc. What do you want your live to look like, emotionally? Financially? Socially? Spiritually? etc etc. Once you know where you want to be then break down your goals into daily actionable objectives and you'll make progress towards your goals daily. Progress equals happiness.

I mean you don't have to set goals or strive for anything if you don't want, you can continue to choose to feel bad for yourself. You already know how that feels. And how you feel is a choice.

 

[RangerMIke]

You are in your 20s... plenty of time.

But really, you can not worry about your past because your PAST is when made you the way you are now, since you are the sum of your experience. And you can change the way you are in the future.

There now stop whining like a little b!tch and clean away that regret by looking to the future.

 

[Macaframalama]

I am in my 20s and out of college, the one thing that haunts me like crazy to the point it depresses me is the fact that I missed out on all of this during high school and college. Home schooled for high school and just flat out didn't get it right in college.

No parties with hot girls.

No going out with cool friends and enjoying fun times with hot girls.

No making cool friends and have a lot of fun people around my age in my life.

I missed out on all of that in college and it haunts me. I cannot go back at all because it just wouldn't feel the same compared to being 18 and moving out of your parents' house for the first time, meeting lots of people in the same situation as you.

I am just lost and have nothing to look forward to in life.

Sure I might make money and get an occasional gold digger but so what, it just isn't that same fulfilling social feeling.

Because nothing after college really compares.....

I refuse to honor ghosts. That chit will ruin your life-Jim Wendler.
Honestly, my 30's have been my best years so far. I turn 40 in July, so we will see. I went to college in my early 20's, but I was married and it was kind of tough, because there were so many women DTF, but I divorced around 25 and ended up smashing those same chics and still am at 39. Refuse to look back and keep one foot in front of the other.

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

Tough break. Let's see...you missed out on getting herpes, didn't get HIV and didn't get a girl pregnant by mistake. You didn't have a bad drug trip and K-hole into a vegetative coma. You didn't get drunk or drugged up and sexually assaulted. You didn't sexually assault someone else.

You didn't deal with immature 18-23 year old chicks who only care about looks and will just as soon suck your c*ck as go bounce on some other guy unprotected 2 hours later.

Yeah, you missed out on a lot

Enjoy the present. The image of college being some wild crazy fun-time where nothing ever goes wrong and everyone is having loads of happy flawless ultra-sex is a stupid myth propagated by Hollywood, pathetic people who make bulls*** up about their college years and cheeseball sitcoms.

Most of the people I know who partied really hard at University got a bad degree or dropped out with drug abuse problems, completely f*cking their future up. Others got permanent STIs or got psychologically f*cked up by abusive relationships.

To get some perspective: you don't live in North Korea. You can go out this Friday night and get smashed, then have a fair chance of smashing a college cutie if that's what you want. And you won't even have to pay college fees to do so.

The grass is not always greener.

 

[jaymbrs]

You’re depressed because you live in Atlanta. Try and move to another city.

 

[corrector]

I am in my 20s and out of college, the one thing that haunts me like crazy to the point it depresses me is the fact that I missed out on all of this during high school and college. Home schooled for high school and just flat out didn't get it right in college.

No parties with hot girls.

No going out with cool friends and enjoying fun times with hot girls.

No making cool friends and have a lot of fun people around my age in my life.

I missed out on all of that in college and it haunts me. I cannot go back at all because it just wouldn't feel the same compared to being 18 and moving out of your parents' house for the first time, meeting lots of people in the same situation as you.

I am just lost and have nothing to look forward to in life.

Sure I might make money and get an occasional gold digger but so what, it just isn't that same fulfilling social feeling.

Because nothing after college really compares.....

Your college didn't have social clubs?

 

[sosousage]

U missed this

 

[Infern0]

The grass is not always greener.

I know guys that had fun at college

I know guys that didnt

I know guys that had too much fun and didn't end up passing and are still paying off student debt. Guess what they say "i wish I'd studied"

 

[devilkingx2]

You also missed out on girlfriend drama, STDs, alcohol poisoning, and getting arrested.

Still feel bad?

Tough break. Let's see...you missed out on getting herpes, didn't get HIV and didn't get a girl pregnant by mistake. You didn't have a bad drug trip and K-hole into a vegetative coma. You didn't get drunk or drugged up and sexually assaulted. You didn't sexually assault someone else.

You didn't deal with immature 18-23 year old chicks who only care about looks and will just as soon suck your c*ck as go bounce on some other guy unprotected 2 hours later.

Yeah, you missed out on a lot

Enjoy the present. The image of college being some wild crazy fun-time where nothing ever goes wrong and everyone is having loads of happy flawless ultra-sex is a stupid myth propagated by Hollywood, pathetic people who make bulls*** up about their college years and cheeseball sitcoms.

Most of the people I know who partied really hard at University got a bad degree or dropped out with drug abuse problems, completely f*cking their future up. Others got permanent STIs or got psychologically f*cked up by abusive relationships.

To get some perspective: you don't live in North Korea. You can go out this Friday night and get smashed, then have a fair chance of smashing a college cutie if that's what you want. And you won't even have to pay college fees to do so.

The grass is not always greener.

The grass is not always greener.

I know guys that had fun at college

I know guys that didnt

I know guys that had too much fun and didn't end up passing and are still paying off student debt. Guess what they say "i wish I'd studied"

I'd just like to point out that there is a such a thing as moderation, it's not a dichotomy between 7 days of partying per week and 7 days of studying.

If you can't find the balance that's a problem, but imo too far in either direction is bad.

If you don't make friends and have fun your college experience was just paying money to do work. If you bomb all your classes because you went to class hungover every day your 1.9 GPA is just gonna get you a slightly higher ranked mcdonalds job

The trick is that you don't gotta be an anti social nerd or an alcoholic party animal

 

[devilkingx2]

I am just lost and have nothing to look forward to in life.

You could always go back to college for a second degree/go to grad school

You could always join clubs right now relevant to your interests, that's a great way to make friends. As for meeting women go to parties (there's sites and facebook pages and groups that host parties open to the public if you wanna pay money to get in)

 

[NewToTheGame]

Dude, I didn't start to "get it" until 32-33.. fact of the matter is, you got a degree, you have a good start to your career.. you are way ahead of most people.

Don't focus on women. Focus on your career, and your hobbies. As long as you are being social and putting yourself out there, the rest will come.

 

[drakeisfire]

U missed this

I should train MMA and get so good to where I can put that white knight in a wheelchair for the rest of his life, would be a huge confidence booster.

 

[Macaframalama]

I should train MMA and get so good to where I can put that white knight in a wheelchair for the rest of his life, would be a huge confidence booster.

It wouldn't take much. The guy is obviously untrained. One or two classes focused on basic striking and defense would put you light years ahead of this dude.

 

[drakeisfire]

What keeps biting at me is just finding that crowd tbh, like I don't know where to find friends and a crew of people after college who love to take part in the fun, throw parties, and obviously a crew that has hot girls in it.

 

[Macaframalama]

What keeps biting at me is just finding that crowd tbh, like I don't know where to find friends and a crew of people after college who love to take part in the fun, throw parties, and obviously a crew that has hot girls in it.

You have hobbies and interests right? If you like a particular type of music, find out where they play that type of music. If you're into lifting weights or martial arts, etc. ask to work in with them or to critique or show you techniques. Just figure out what you are into and go to the places where like-minded ppl go.